An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Standards too high?

6:37 am Sep. 19, 2014

One of our readers has asked for advice from the blog. Her friends and family tell her that she should be more realistic about what she wants in a mate. She is seeking someone who brings what she does to the table: in shape, educated, ambitious, and attractive.

Because people tell her she has met and dated this type before, they wonder if she uses these standards

Dating: I’m seeing other people

7:07 am Sep. 17, 2014

Single people get distracted so easily. Some of us flat out have dating ADD! There is a tricky balancing act that comes with “putting yourself out there” and slowing down the sliding doors of dating. How do you pause things long enough to explore something with someone?

My friend Jenna says she isn’t great at juggling men. If she sees a guy she likes and the chemistry is there,

Are you sure they broke up?

5:59 am Sep. 16, 2014

Paulette has been seeing a man for a couple of months. When they first met, he was honest about his friendship with his ex-wife. Even though they have been divorced for a couple of years, they talk every week. Paulette thought it was mature and admirable – at first. Now it’s becoming a red flag.

The main concern she has is the access his ex has to

Dating Single-ish people

6:42 am Sep. 4, 2014

My friend Heather was seeing someone she met through mutual friends. This weekend she found out that he isn’t exactly single. He is technically married but in the process of getting a divorce. The fact that she learned this from someone else was a problem. She also is worried that she is now the official rebound girl.

I can understand her reservations. Dating someone fresh

Dating: Delete!

4:58 am Aug. 29, 2014

Delete. Delete. Delete. I spent a copious amount of time deleting text messages from an attempted romance. If I could delete the entire memory of the guy from my brain as I did my phone memory, I’d be GOLDEN. Sometimes people turn out to be a colossal waste of time. It happens!

I always like to say that I don’t have regrets but this one I

Dating: Do you like a challenge?

6:21 am Jul. 31, 2014

When you meet someone and the chase starts, pursuing them becomes a game. Some people are into that and enjoy the pursuit. They like the challenge of those who play hard to get. Do you enjoy a little challenge? I can agree that it leads to stronger attraction but how long should the chase last?

My friend Gary likes high maintenance women so he loves a challenge.

Are they marriage material?

5:00 am Jul. 21, 2014

I have heard some men state that part of dating is determining if a woman is marriage material. The men who want a wife seem to know if the women they meet exhibit qualities a wife should have. Generally speaking, I think women also view romantic prospects through a husband-father prism.

So how would you determine if someone is marriage material? I’ve heard one man say

Prescreening your dates?

6:35 am Jul. 11, 2014

I always wonder if the dating misadventures of men mirror our own. The guys seem to manage the dating scene with a lot more ease then women. At least that is how it

Real or fake?

5:00 am Jul. 10, 2014

Consider this a PSA: Beware of fake people who want fake relationships. There are some single people who like to flex to their friends that they are involved or met someone special. What they

Do you have secrets to reveal?

6:50 am Jul. 1, 2014

There comes a time in a relationship when you may have to be vulnerable and share intimate secrets. Some people have real anxiety about this and put it off as long as possible.