- 6:37 am Friday, September 19th, 2014 by Wise Diva
One of our readers has asked for advice from the blog. Her friends and family tell her that she should be more realistic about what she wants in a mate. She is seeking someone who brings what she does to the table: in shape, educated, ambitious, and attractive.
Because people tell her she has met and dated this type before, they wonder if she uses these standards as an excuse to avoid relationships. She wants to know if anyone has tried to “compromise” on their standards. Does it work? If you switch up [More]
- 7:07 am Wednesday, September 17th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Single people get distracted so easily. Some of us flat out have dating ADD! There is a tricky balancing act that comes with “putting yourself out there” and slowing down the sliding doors of dating. How do you pause things long enough to explore something with someone?
My friend Jenna says she isn’t great at juggling men. If she sees a guy she likes and the chemistry is there, she is eager to focus all her attention on him. This gets her into trouble when they aren’t quite where she is. She found out that the guy [More]
- 5:59 am Tuesday, September 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Paulette has been seeing a man for a couple of months. When they first met, he was honest about his friendship with his ex-wife. Even though they have been divorced for a couple of years, they talk every week. Paulette thought it was mature and admirable – at first. Now it’s becoming a red flag.
The main concern she has is the access his ex has to him. She has a key to his place and is still close to his family. She doesn’t want to be petty and insecure but it has become something [More]
- 6:42 am Thursday, September 4th, 2014 by Wise Diva
My friend Heather was seeing someone she met through mutual friends. This weekend she found out that he isn’t exactly single. He is technically married but in the process of getting a divorce. The fact that she learned this from someone else was a problem. She also is worried that she is now the official rebound girl.
I can understand her reservations. Dating someone fresh from a divorce could be complicated. Dating someone who is basically married and has yet to go through the roller coaster of divorce is been more daunting. If [More]
- 4:58 am Friday, August 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Delete. Delete. Delete. I spent a copious amount of time deleting text messages from an attempted romance. If I could delete the entire memory of the guy from my brain as I did my phone memory, I’d be GOLDEN. Sometimes people turn out to be a colossal waste of time. It happens!
I always like to say that I don’t have regrets but this one I regret. I regret meeting, liking, talking, kissing, this guy. I legit wish I never met him and that rarely happens. He brought a whole bunch of drama to [More]
- 6:21 am Thursday, July 31st, 2014 by Wise Diva
When you meet someone and the chase starts, pursuing them becomes a game. Some people are into that and enjoy the pursuit. They like the challenge of those who play hard to get. Do you enjoy a little challenge? I can agree that it leads to stronger attraction but how long should the chase last?
My friend Gary likes high maintenance women so he loves a challenge. He thinks that women who make it easy for men to pursue them send a bad message. I worry about him being mislead by these women but he [More]
- 5:00 am Monday, July 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva
I have heard some men state that part of dating is determining if a woman is marriage material. The men who want a wife seem to know if the women they meet exhibit qualities a wife should have. Generally speaking, I think women also view romantic prospects through a husband-father prism.
So how would you determine if someone is marriage material? I’ve heard one man say her alcohol intake, amount of partying, and cooking skills lets him know a lot. Women probably don’t even realize the level of scrutiny they are under during dating! [More]
- 6:35 am Friday, July 11th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I always wonder if the dating misadventures of men mirror our own. The guys seem to manage the dating scene with a lot more ease then women. At least that is how it seems at times. When I asked a friend Zack why he seems to navigate dating so well, he told me he learned the art of prescreening dates!
Zack admits that there was a time when he went out on a first date with whomever he felt a strong attraction. That led to boring dates with vapid women with no personality. He began to put more [More]
- 5:00 am Thursday, July 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Consider this a PSA: Beware of fake people who want fake relationships. There are some single people who like to flex to their friends that they are involved or met someone special. What they really want is a trophy to sport and show off. How do you know if your relationship is real or fake?
It is always helpful to pay close attention to actions – not just words. If they speak about meeting family and friends but that doesn’t happen, it’s possibly fake. Also, a fake relationship is superficial and you will feel when it is [More]
- 6:50 am Tuesday, July 1st, 2014 by Wise Diva
There comes a time in a relationship when you may have to be vulnerable and share intimate secrets. Some people have real anxiety about this and put it off as long as possible. We fear being judged, rejected, or even ridiculed about our skeletons. Things that we keep hidden out of shame can become a problem in a relationship, though. How do you decide the right time?
Personally, I would want to tell and know more sooner than later. If the comfort level is there, sharing something that needs to be revealed is a milestone in [More]