- 7:48 am Thursday, October 9th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Having an active dating life means you could end up dating multiple people at once. Everyone is not cut out for this and some people excel at it. It can be fun and is probably the way to go if you are not looking for something serious. Why don’t more people try it?
The biggest dilemma with juggling dates is how honest and transparent you have to be. I don’t think it would bother me as long as the person is considerate of my time. Don’t double book dates, focus on the person you are [More]
- 5:00 am Wednesday, October 8th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Being the only unmarried person in the office sucks sometimes. If you aren’t dealing with smug married people, you are avoiding the talk about your love life. Why are people so curious about single life anyway?
I can’t help but feel like some sort of weird museum exhibit being watched and marveled at: “Here is a single black female in her 40s. Despite her spinster age, she manages to get through her workday without collapsing in a ball of tears at her single status.” I am exaggerating of course, but you get what I’m saying, right? [More]
- 8:04 am Tuesday, October 7th, 2014 by Wise Diva
When you are out and about, do you ever see someone who catches your eye? What was it about them that you notice? The image we project may or may not reflect our personalities, though. I have a friend who is super conservative and straight-laced. If you saw him out, you would think he was a fan of hip hop music and worked in strip club.
Since we are all visual creatures, do you think what we notice first says a lot about what we are attracted to? I always notice a guy’s arms – [More]
- 5:00 am Monday, October 6th, 2014 by Wise Diva
The way you act on a date is supposed to be endearing and charming. This doesn’t always come easy to some people. Some people just act weird. It could be due to anxiety or nervousness but it can make it hard to see the real you.
My friend Kelly was a weird date and she doesn’t know if her behavior scared the guy off. I suggested she just own up to it, admit she had date anxiety. I figure honesty is the best way to go. She drank a little too much and [More]
- 6:01 am Friday, October 3rd, 2014 by Wise Diva
In the first couple of months of a dating relationship, guys sometimes do the majority of the paying. If it is a traditional guy, he insists on paying for everything. I have offered to pay, cover the tip, or spring for dessert because I think it shows gratitude. I’ve only had one guy get offended but that was because he was unemployed at the time. He didn’t want my “pity” so it was related to his ego and self-esteem.
I believe some women think paying for a man is problematic because dating gives men the [More]
- 7:45 am Thursday, October 2nd, 2014 by Wise Diva
My friend Dave had a first date last week but he said it felt more like an FBI interview. His date had the strangest line of questions that kind of took away from having the natural conversation.
Some questions he was totally cool with like can you cook and where did you grow up. Others felt a little more intrusive such as have you ever been arrested, do you have any sexual problems. He actually thought she was kidding and attempted to laugh it off; eventually telling her that since they just met, it would better to put off [More]
- 7:27 am Wednesday, October 1st, 2014 by Wise Diva
Some women are not used to being told to wait for sex. There is the assumption that when they are ready, the guy will always be ready. There are some guys that prefer to take things slow, though. It doesn’t necessarily mean they are not interested!
My friend Jenna said she was giving her new guy the green light that she wanted to become intimate. He finally had to tell her that he is enjoying the time he spends with her and that there was no rush. A lot of her friends tell her the reason he is [More]
- 6:54 am Tuesday, September 30th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Some people put a lot of effort into the “image” they want to project on the dating scene because they know first impressions are important. Basically, a lot of people think you can judge a book by its cover when you’re single. Of course, this leads to rampant use of false identities, faux personalities, and fraudulent lies. A bit hyperbolic, maybe but have you ever met someone and got the bait and switch later? It’s awful.
Why are first impressions that important if they are based on so little information? Hasn’t someone ever become more attractive [More]
- 5:50 am Monday, September 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I watched Lisa Ling’s new series on CNN, “This is Life” last night. The premiere episode was about Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby dating dynamic. The term alone makes my skin crawl but I wanted to hear about the experiences people shared.
There was a 69 year old man from Atlanta who was seeing a 32 year old woman. What surprised me is that they genuinely liked each other’s company. Their relationship had financial perks but there was no sexual intimacy. The woman talked of how much he has taught her about business and life in general. [More]
- 8:15 am Friday, September 26th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I think it is good to meet the friends of the people you are dating. It can allow you to see them in their element, for one. It also reveals who they consider their inner circle. Although you can learn a lot of good information, there are times when you see or hear something alarming.
Anna met her boyfriends entire crew and learned they all cheat on their wives. Literally all of his closest friends have extra curricular activities that their wives/girlfriends don’t know about. Anna said her man mentioned it sort of casually like he was cool [More]