- 7:40 am Thursday, October 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva
When you are truly interested in someone and you are ready to make a move, you can’t always be subtle. Some people don’t get subtlety at all! There are signs that can hard to read. Body language, eye contact, and even flirting can get missed. How do you let someone know you are interested and not just being polite?
I know that I don’t automatically assume that men who are friendly are interested. Up until the moment a guy asks for my phone number, I consider it flirting at best. When I want a guy to [More]
- 6:41 am Wednesday, October 15th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I promised myself that if I ever felt the need to snoop on my man, I would just end the relationship. How could I ever justify staying with someone I did not trust? I have people call me naive and tell me you have to check up on your mate sometimes. Do you agree?
There are some people who regularly check the text messages, emails, phone pictures of their significant other. They believe that it would tell them something is going on or prove that nothing is. I think it can be misleading, though. People [More]
- 5:00 am Tuesday, October 14th, 2014 by Wise Diva
A young lady wrote in wanting to know if she should be worried that she does not have much in common with her new guy. Sara is 5 years younger, was raised in the south, and is a party girl. Her man is older, from the Midwest, and is a devout Christian.
My first question to her was, “Uh where did you two kids even meet!?” She said a Braves game. A friend of hers had great seats through work and he was sitting behind her [Sidebar: get thee to a sporting event ladies, especially when [More]
- 7:51 am Friday, October 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Good dates have pleasantries. Great dates have chemistry. You generally want a great date who you are drawn to – not just physically. The problem is that finding people you connect with and have chemistry with can be rare. So rare that you start to forget how it feels to even have great chemistry with someone.
I know some friends who won’t even take the number of a dude unless he gives them that feeling. You know that you feeling when you spot someone hot and when they speak you get mesmerized? Yes. It [More]
- 7:48 am Thursday, October 9th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Having an active dating life means you could end up dating multiple people at once. Everyone is not cut out for this and some people excel at it. It can be fun and is probably the way to go if you are not looking for something serious. Why don’t more people try it?
The biggest dilemma with juggling dates is how honest and transparent you have to be. I don’t think it would bother me as long as the person is considerate of my time. Don’t double book dates, focus on the person you are [More]
- 5:00 am Wednesday, October 8th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Being the only unmarried person in the office sucks sometimes. If you aren’t dealing with smug married people, you are avoiding the talk about your love life. Why are people so curious about single life anyway?
I can’t help but feel like some sort of weird museum exhibit being watched and marveled at: “Here is a single black female in her 40s. Despite her spinster age, she manages to get through her workday without collapsing in a ball of tears at her single status.” I am exaggerating of course, but you get what I’m saying, right? [More]
- 8:04 am Tuesday, October 7th, 2014 by Wise Diva
When you are out and about, do you ever see someone who catches your eye? What was it about them that you notice? The image we project may or may not reflect our personalities, though. I have a friend who is super conservative and straight-laced. If you saw him out, you would think he was a fan of hip hop music and worked in strip club.
Since we are all visual creatures, do you think what we notice first says a lot about what we are attracted to? I always notice a guy’s arms – [More]
- 5:00 am Monday, October 6th, 2014 by Wise Diva
The way you act on a date is supposed to be endearing and charming. This doesn’t always come easy to some people. Some people just act weird. It could be due to anxiety or nervousness but it can make it hard to see the real you.
My friend Kelly was a weird date and she doesn’t know if her behavior scared the guy off. I suggested she just own up to it, admit she had date anxiety. I figure honesty is the best way to go. She drank a little too much and [More]
- 6:01 am Friday, October 3rd, 2014 by Wise Diva
In the first couple of months of a dating relationship, guys sometimes do the majority of the paying. If it is a traditional guy, he insists on paying for everything. I have offered to pay, cover the tip, or spring for dessert because I think it shows gratitude. I’ve only had one guy get offended but that was because he was unemployed at the time. He didn’t want my “pity” so it was related to his ego and self-esteem.
I believe some women think paying for a man is problematic because dating gives men the [More]
- 7:45 am Thursday, October 2nd, 2014 by Wise Diva
My friend Dave had a first date last week but he said it felt more like an FBI interview. His date had the strangest line of questions that kind of took away from having the natural conversation.
Some questions he was totally cool with like can you cook and where did you grow up. Others felt a little more intrusive such as have you ever been arrested, do you have any sexual problems. He actually thought she was kidding and attempted to laugh it off; eventually telling her that since they just met, it would better to put off [More]