Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Post-hook up reality check?

  • 7:16 am Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

After you have been intimate with someone, do you think their behavior changes? I asked because one of my friends said that he thinks women often pull a bait and switch in dating. The switch comes after they hook up with someone.

I know, breaking news: Sex changes things, right? Is it because we expect different things after we get physical? The guys that I know think they can tell a lot about a woman by the way she acts after sex. What they truly want becomes apparent: relationship or friends with benefits?

Do you believe [More]

Is it too soon for sex?

  • 7:17 am Monday, September 15th, 2014 by Wise Diva

The advice I get from male friends about dating usually follow a theme: take it slow. Time allows you to figure things out, become more comfortable, and rule people out. When it comes to sex, waiting gives you a chance to build up chemistry but how much waiting is necessary?

I know some people who hooked up on the first date and later married. This clearly won’t be the case for everyone, so it just depends on what you are seeking. If you want to give your potential romance a better chance, why not wait?

What do you think [More]

Relationships: Not in the mood?

  • 5:33 am Wednesday, September 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Did you ever hear that story about a married guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet about their sad sex life? He listed all the dates he asked for sex and the litany of excuses his wife gave him.

The wife posted it on the site Reddit because she was that angry he emailed her on her way out of town on a 10-day trip. You can pretty much tell what their relationship dynamic is when it comes to communication!

When everyone was debating this on the internet, a lot of men I know used this as an [More]

Size matters?

  • 6:22 am Wednesday, August 20th, 2014 by Wise Diva

So I have been a dating blogger for about 100 years and this is a true first, people: A guy told me his date sort of demanded to see his package. YES that package. Apparently, size queens are becoming more direct! She wanted to know what to expect before things went any further with them. He didn’t comply with her request and she thinks it was because he feared reaction.

I admire her courage but I am disappointed that she believes size is that important. Obviously, people don’t want to end up with a partner who [More]

If it is bad, do you tell them?

  • 7:17 am Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

My friend has been with his girlfriend for about six months. He is happy with her but admitted that things never heated up in the bedroom. Initially he thought they just to find their chemistry and hit their groove. The groove still hasn’t appeared yet. Should he let her know that their sex life needs some work?

I don’t know how he can avoid it, but it is definitely a sensitive topic. A lot of women think they are rock stars when it comes to sex. Fragile egos make it hard to broach a subject like this. [More]

He wants to wait?

  • 6:05 am Monday, June 30th, 2014 by Wise Diva
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One of our readers thinks the 32 year old that she is seeing is being a gentleman. He wants to wait before they have sex. She believed this was because of his religious upbringing but now she isn’t sure. A couple of her guy friends told her that he probably isn’t into her that much because a lot of men don’t want to wait long.

I hate to stress her out but men delaying sex on their own doesn’t seem to happen often. It could be because of religious reasons but if he doesn’t say that, you [More]

Is sexy time better delayed?

  • 5:00 am Wednesday, May 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you meet someone you are very, very, very attracted to, it becomes challenging not to rip their clothes off when you see them.  It is a good sign if you have the urge to do so, but can it be better if it is delayed?  Some people think that the longer they wait to become intimate, the stronger the attraction gets to build.

Sexual tension is a very tricky thing, though! I know friends who waited and felt a huge disappointment.  It’s  almost as if the fantasy of being with the person overshadowed the reality of being with them.

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‘The Great Love Debate’ comes to Atlanta

  • 3:48 pm Monday, May 19th, 2014 by Elizabeth Montgomery
Panelist L-R Janis Spindel, Ellen Smoak, Sara Kathryn Smith, Josh Maverick, DeJuan Miller and Stephan Labossiere

Does the Atlanta scene leave you frustrated and loaded with questions about how single men and women relate to each other? “The Great Love Debate,” a national tour of relationship experts, stops in Atlanta to solve dating problems at 7:30 p.m. May 19 at King Plow Arts Center (887 West Marietta Street).

The tour was created four years ago by author Brian Howie to provide men and women of all ages and backgrounds a chance to voice their opinions about relationships and to have their dating questions answered in a town hall-style discussion.

The audience is split with men on one [More]