Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

That’s not boring, that’s love

  • 7:30 am Thursday, September 18th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When I hear someone whine about things being too boring in their relationship, I suggest they go rob a bank with their partner. If excitement is what you seek in a romantic relationship, what does that really mean? When you reach a certain maturity level, you don’t want drama and too much excitement. You want peace and passion!

I think some people get into a healthy relationship and don’t know how to handle it. They start manufacturing issues and drama because they fear becoming “boring and dull” in a relationship. Have you ever met someone who constantly talk about [More]

Dating: I’m seeing other people

  • 7:07 am Wednesday, September 17th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Single people get distracted so easily. Some of us flat out have dating ADD! There is a tricky balancing act that comes with “putting yourself out there” and slowing down the sliding doors of dating. How do you pause things long enough to explore something with someone?

My friend Jenna says she isn’t great at juggling men. If she sees a guy she likes and the chemistry is there, she is eager to focus all her attention on him. This gets her into trouble when they aren’t quite where she is. She found out that the guy [More]

Are you sure they broke up?

  • 5:59 am Tuesday, September 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Paulette has been seeing a man for a couple of months. When they first met, he was honest about his friendship with his ex-wife. Even though they have been divorced for a couple of years, they talk every week. Paulette thought it was mature and admirable – at first. Now it’s becoming a red flag.

The main concern she has is the access his ex has to him. She has a key to his place and is still close to his family. She doesn’t want to be petty and insecure but it has become something [More]

Relationships: Not in the mood?

  • 5:33 am Wednesday, September 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Did you ever hear that story about a married guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet about their sad sex life? He listed all the dates he asked for sex and the litany of excuses his wife gave him.

The wife posted it on the site Reddit because she was that angry he emailed her on her way out of town on a 10-day trip. You can pretty much tell what their relationship dynamic is when it comes to communication!

When everyone was debating this on the internet, a lot of men I know used this as an [More]

Dating: Delete!

  • 4:58 am Friday, August 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Delete. Delete. Delete. I spent a copious amount of time deleting text messages from an attempted romance. If I could delete the entire memory of the guy from my brain as I did my phone memory, I’d be GOLDEN. Sometimes people turn out to be a colossal waste of time. It happens!

I always like to say that I don’t have regrets but this one I regret. I regret meeting, liking, talking, kissing, this guy. I legit wish I never met him and that rarely happens. He brought a whole bunch of drama to [More]

Pet peeves? Speak up

  • 7:05 am Thursday, August 28th, 2014 by Wise Diva

You know the first couple of months of a relationship are so sweet and sexy? It really is the fun part! Well, eventually you get to that comfortable stage and things become more routine. This is also when you start to get on each other’s nerves!

My friend Harold is seeing someone who talks way too much at times. I guess it didn’t bother him in the beginning (before sex) and now he says it drives him crazy. I’m sure she has pet peeves that she could name about him but sometimes you just want the [More]

Relationships: Not a competition

  • 4:43 am Wednesday, August 27th, 2014 by Wise Diva

One of our readers has asked for advice about her new relationship. She has noticed that her guy frequently tries to “one up” her. It started out light hearted and fun competition. After the friendly banter turned to him making snide remarks, she started to think he was serious.

She wondered if he is the type that always has to be on top. Winning is so important to him and when he doesn’t win, he loses his cool. Is that a red flag? Have you ever met someone who is super competitive about everything? Do [More]

Relationships: Who am I to you?

  • 7:20 am Monday, August 25th, 2014 by Wise Diva

This weekend was stressful for one couple. After the guys failed to introduce his woman as his girlfriend at a social event, things got intense. She could not understand how someone she spends all her free time with, cooks for, and treats like a King, doesn’t want to label her as The Girlfriend.

For his part, he doesn’t understand why she needs the title. They are always together and he is happy with her. Why can’t that be enough for her? This is a common issue when you have two people with different ideas about [More]

Relationships: Are you too comfortable?

  • 7:02 am Friday, August 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

You know how a couple starts to feel comfortable around one another and drop the pretense? This can be a great thing, but some people take it too far. Once the mystery is all but gone and you let it all hang out, things can become a little stale and boring.

This is what one do our readers is going through now. Six months into the relationship and his woman is wearing head scarves and tshirts to bed. The effort to be sexy and spontaneous for him is missing. What should you do if your partner starts to [More]

When you have two options

  • 7:17 am Thursday, August 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva

The dating dilemma that most of us rarely experience: picking between two people. The first time I had to decide between two great guys, it came down to compatibility. My friend Alex is trying to determine who to pursue based on substance and sex.

The two women both are attractive, but one is a little more sophisticated and smart. They have only kissed. The other lady is someone from his past and they have a sexual history. He knows they have chemistry but is that enough?

Have you ever had a hard time choosing who [More]