Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Standards too high?

  • 6:37 am Friday, September 19th, 2014 by Wise Diva

One of our readers has asked for advice from the blog. Her friends and family tell her that she should be more realistic about what she wants in a mate. She is seeking someone who brings what she does to the table: in shape, educated, ambitious, and attractive.

Because people tell her she has met and dated this type before, they wonder if she uses these standards as an excuse to avoid relationships. She wants to know if anyone has tried to “compromise” on their standards. Does it work? If you switch up [More]

Date like a man?

  • 4:55 am Friday, September 12th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Many women are used to being pursued and know how to sit and enjoy male attention. When it comes to flipping the script and asking men out, we shy away from it. Honestly, I think more women would try it if they knew how to turn on the charm.

It takes a lot of confidence to risk rejection and ask someone out. I usually make sure I have an event to invite someone to, like concert or some sport. There is less pressure and you can make it sound appealing. If the guy is attracted to you [More]

Is it all about the chase?

  • 7:19 am Tuesday, September 9th, 2014 by Wise Diva

The common complaint from women that I hear about dating is that men are too focused on the chase. Once they get the phone number, attention, or even hook up, they seem to lose interest. Is it all about the chase?

I know some men who enjoy pursuing women but they don’t get fixated on the chase. They look forward to the time when the object of their desire responds to them. Of course, the chase can be exciting and even sexy, but it can only last for so long.

Do you think some people are all [More]

Dating: Are you too giving?

  • 5:00 am Monday, September 8th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Have you ever met someone who has the biggest heart and is super generous who constantly gets taken for granted? It is so interesting how they gravitate to the ” takers” and end up giving too much. This is common when the “good” guys and the “sweet girls” give a lot to their relationships.

I’ve seen people invest in businesses of the person they are dating. I’ve watched people pay tuition for kids who aren’t their own. All very generous things to do …in a marriage! Dating is probably the time when your generosity should [More]

Great dates don’t have to be expensive

  • 6:21 am Friday, September 5th, 2014 by Wise Diva

The stress of planning a great date can be eliminated if you simplify things. You don’t need a bunch of money to make the date amazing and memorable. I know the most fun and exciting dates were imaginative and creative.

Some of us aren’t good at being creative or thoughtful. Figuring out what your date is in to can be a good start. It will prove you listen and care enough to plan something special. Special can be cheap too! A hike with a picnic. A free concert and dessert afterwards.

What are some of [More]

Dating Single-ish people

  • 6:42 am Thursday, September 4th, 2014 by Wise Diva

My friend Heather was seeing someone she met through mutual friends. This weekend she found out that he isn’t exactly single. He is technically married but in the process of getting a divorce. The fact that she learned this from someone else was a problem. She also is worried that she is now the official rebound girl.

I can understand her reservations. Dating someone fresh from a divorce could be complicated. Dating someone who is basically married and has yet to go through the roller coaster of divorce is been more daunting. If [More]

Summer fling?

  • 6:46 am Wednesday, September 3rd, 2014 by Wise Diva

Labor Day has come and gone. Some people are legitimately worried that their summer romance was seasonal! A friend told me that she is expecting the guy she met Memorial Day weekend to stop calling her. Sadly this is mainly because last year she was someone’s summer fling.

It is entirely possible that her new romance is going to have staying power. Most of my relationships started in summer months. The fall and winter only brought us closer. Besides, I think you can tell if you are just a fling to someone. It shows [More]

Dating: Delete!

  • 4:58 am Friday, August 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Delete. Delete. Delete. I spent a copious amount of time deleting text messages from an attempted romance. If I could delete the entire memory of the guy from my brain as I did my phone memory, I’d be GOLDEN. Sometimes people turn out to be a colossal waste of time. It happens!

I always like to say that I don’t have regrets but this one I regret. I regret meeting, liking, talking, kissing, this guy. I legit wish I never met him and that rarely happens. He brought a whole bunch of drama to [More]

Are friends keeping you single?

  • 6:54 am Tuesday, August 26th, 2014 by Wise Diva

My friend Victor thinks he would still be with his ex-girlfriend if her friends had not interfered. There were many times when they planted seeds of doubt and made her second guess him. He believes those outside influences contributed to their problems.

This made me think about how some singles like to be single at the same time. When one gets in a relationship, the others may not always be happy for them. Some actively try to sabotage things! Obviously this is not what I call friendship. Is it possible friends are the reason some [More]

How do you dump someone?

  • 7:45 am Tuesday, August 19th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Have you ever dated someone and start to lose interest? Since there is not a relationship that has to end, you wonder what to really say? It can be tricky, especially when you would be interested in a friendship. Is there a way to let someone down easy and still remain friends with them?

My friend Chris said he realized that he isn’t interested in someone he met and is dating casually. He wants to pursue someone else but thinks he could be cool friends with the her. I think it is unfair to expect friendship [More]