Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Handling disappearing acts

  • 7:46 am Thursday, October 30th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Most of us have had to deal with those oh so lovely disappearing acts in our dating past. You know, that is when someone is in hot and heavy pursuit for you for a smooth month, then suddenly stops calling. They get ghost and disappear leaving you bewildered.

Sometimes these ghosts come back to haunt you later, though. What happens then? Do you let them come back into your life if they had a legitimate reason they left?

One of our readers pulled a disappearing act on a young lady and he wants to contact her again. He [More]

Dating: Asking a man out

  • 7:51 am Wednesday, October 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I know several women who refuse to even consider asking a man out first. They believe that it is a man’s role to pursue and seek out them out. When the woman takes on that role, many believe that shifts the power dynamic. It’s interpreting the gender roles in its most basic form: women should not take the lead.

The few times I have seen women ask men out, the men seemed flattered and opened to it. I have never heard a man admit to feeling emasculated after being asked out by a man. Isn’t [More]

Avoiding commitment?

  • 7:34 am Tuesday, October 28th, 2014 by Wise Diva

One of our readers just discovered she is dating a commitment-phobe. It is something that took her by surprise. She said she asked all the right questions in the beginning, paying careful attention to what he said. After a couple of months, she realized he had no real desire to take things further.

When you are dating someone new, it is important to find out if you are on the same page. Some people don’t want anything serious or like to keep it casual. Casual isn’t for everybody, though. Folks who avoid commitment usually show [More]

Should you play it dumb?

  • 7:13 am Monday, October 27th, 2014 by Wise Diva

We all can name many shallow reasons not to date someone but would you dumb someone for being too intelligent? I ask because I have heard some women worry about appearing too smart and turning guys off. They actually try to dumb down in hopes of making a good impression. This could be misleading but some people risk it anyway.

When I asked one lady why she downplays her intellect on dates, she said she didn’t want to appear boring and dull. She is a Ph.D researcher but she just tells guys she is a teacher to [More]

Post-hook up reality check?

  • 7:16 am Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

After you have been intimate with someone, do you think their behavior changes? I asked because one of my friends said that he thinks women often pull a bait and switch in dating. The switch comes after they hook up with someone.

I know, breaking news: Sex changes things, right? Is it because we expect different things after we get physical? The guys that I know think they can tell a lot about a woman by the way she acts after sex. What they truly want becomes apparent: relationship or friends with benefits?

Do you believe [More]

The return of the ex

  • 8:12 am Tuesday, October 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva

Why does it seem as if people from our past always pop up at the worse times? I used to think one of my exes had me under surveillance and waited until I was starting something new to return. Do you have someone who keeps coming back like a bad boomerang from hell?

The basic reason my guy friends tell me is that men come back for the possibility of hooking up. You don’t even really have to even hint at it. They just hope that you will give them a shot for nostalgia’s sake. I [More]

Does love make us crazy?

  • 7:34 am Monday, October 20th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you find yourself stuck in the chimney of your ex-boyfriend’s house, you have to wonder how you got there. Not literally, of course, but it is symbolic! Ms. Figueroa from California probably thought she was doing what women in love do. Her ration and logic took a vacation and left her with desperate and unreasonable.

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Let’s face it, love and infatuation can make you do stupid things. You ever ride around your man or woman’s house looking for strange cars? Congrats, you did something stupid for love. Have you looked up pictures of [More]

Interested in someone? Don’t be subtle!

  • 7:40 am Thursday, October 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you are truly interested in someone and you are ready to make a move, you can’t always be subtle. Some people don’t get subtlety at all! There are signs that can hard to read. Body language, eye contact, and even flirting can get missed. How do you let someone know you are interested and not just being polite?

I know that I don’t automatically assume that men who are friendly are interested. Up until the moment a guy asks for my phone number, I consider it flirting at best. When I want a guy to [More]

Is chemistry required?

  • 7:51 am Friday, October 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Good dates have pleasantries. Great dates have chemistry. You generally want a great date who you are drawn to – not just physically. The problem is that finding people you connect with and have chemistry with can be rare. So rare that you start to forget how it feels to even have great chemistry with someone.

I know some friends who won’t even take the number of a dude unless he gives them that feeling. You know that you feeling when you spot someone hot and when they speak you get mesmerized? Yes. It [More]

Dating multiple people

  • 7:48 am Thursday, October 9th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Having an active dating life means you could end up dating multiple people at once. Everyone is not cut out for this and some people excel at it. It can be fun and is probably the way to go if you are not looking for something serious. Why don’t more people try it?

The biggest dilemma with juggling dates is how honest and transparent you have to be. I don’t think it would bother me as long as the person is considerate of my time. Don’t double book dates, focus on the person you are [More]