Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Post-hook up reality check?

  • 7:16 am Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

After you have been intimate with someone, do you think their behavior changes? I asked because one of my friends said that he thinks women often pull a bait and switch in dating. The switch comes after they hook up with someone.

I know, breaking news: Sex changes things, right? Is it because we expect different things after we get physical? The guys that I know think they can tell a lot about a woman by the way she acts after sex. What they truly want becomes apparent: relationship or friends with benefits?

Do you believe [More]

The return of the ex

  • 8:12 am Tuesday, October 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva

Why does it seem as if people from our past always pop up at the worse times? I used to think one of my exes had me under surveillance and waited until I was starting something new to return. Do you have someone who keeps coming back like a bad boomerang from hell?

The basic reason my guy friends tell me is that men come back for the possibility of hooking up. You don’t even really have to even hint at it. They just hope that you will give them a shot for nostalgia’s sake. I [More]

Does love make us crazy?

  • 7:34 am Monday, October 20th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you find yourself stuck in the chimney of your ex-boyfriend’s house, you have to wonder how you got there. Not literally, of course, but it is symbolic! Ms. Figueroa from California probably thought she was doing what women in love do. Her ration and logic took a vacation and left her with desperate and unreasonable.

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Let’s face it, love and infatuation can make you do stupid things. You ever ride around your man or woman’s house looking for strange cars? Congrats, you did something stupid for love. Have you looked up pictures of [More]

Interested in someone? Don’t be subtle!

  • 7:40 am Thursday, October 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you are truly interested in someone and you are ready to make a move, you can’t always be subtle. Some people don’t get subtlety at all! There are signs that can hard to read. Body language, eye contact, and even flirting can get missed. How do you let someone know you are interested and not just being polite?

I know that I don’t automatically assume that men who are friendly are interested. Up until the moment a guy asks for my phone number, I consider it flirting at best. When I want a guy to [More]

Is chemistry required?

  • 7:51 am Friday, October 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Good dates have pleasantries. Great dates have chemistry. You generally want a great date who you are drawn to – not just physically. The problem is that finding people you connect with and have chemistry with can be rare. So rare that you start to forget how it feels to even have great chemistry with someone.

I know some friends who won’t even take the number of a dude unless he gives them that feeling. You know that you feeling when you spot someone hot and when they speak you get mesmerized? Yes. It [More]

Dating multiple people

  • 7:48 am Thursday, October 9th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Having an active dating life means you could end up dating multiple people at once. Everyone is not cut out for this and some people excel at it. It can be fun and is probably the way to go if you are not looking for something serious. Why don’t more people try it?

The biggest dilemma with juggling dates is how honest and transparent you have to be. I don’t think it would bother me as long as the person is considerate of my time. Don’t double book dates, focus on the person you are [More]

Would you rent a date?

  • 5:00 am Wednesday, October 8th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Being the only unmarried person in the office sucks sometimes. If you aren’t dealing with smug married people, you are avoiding the talk about your love life. Why are people so curious about single life anyway?

I can’t help but feel like some sort of weird museum exhibit being watched and marveled at: “Here is a single black female in her 40s. Despite her spinster age, she manages to get through her workday without collapsing in a ball of tears at her single status.” I am exaggerating of course, but you get what I’m saying, right? [More]

Stop being weird on dates

  • 5:00 am Monday, October 6th, 2014 by Wise Diva

The way you act on a date is supposed to be endearing and charming. This doesn’t always come easy to some people. Some people just act weird. It could be due to anxiety or nervousness but it can make it hard to see the real you.

My friend Kelly was a weird date and she doesn’t know if her behavior scared the guy off. I suggested she just own up to it, admit she had date anxiety. I figure honesty is the best way to go. She drank a little too much and [More]

Should we offer to pay?

  • 6:01 am Friday, October 3rd, 2014 by Wise Diva

In the first couple of months of a dating relationship, guys sometimes do the majority of the paying. If it is a traditional guy, he insists on paying for everything. I have offered to pay, cover the tip, or spring for dessert because I think it shows gratitude. I’ve only had one guy get offended but that was because he was unemployed at the time. He didn’t want my “pity” so it was related to his ego and self-esteem.

I believe some women think paying for a man is problematic because dating gives men the [More]

Relax! It’s only the first date

  • 7:45 am Thursday, October 2nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

My friend Dave had a first date last week but he said it felt more like an FBI interview. His date had the strangest line of questions that kind of took away from having the natural conversation.

Some questions he was totally cool with like can you cook and where did you grow up. Others felt a little more intrusive such as have you ever been arrested, do you have any sexual problems. He actually thought she was kidding and attempted to laugh it off; eventually telling her that since they just met, it would better to put off [More]