- 7:16 am Friday, August 1st, 2014 by Wise Diva
Breaking up can be hard and messy sometimes. It is especially tough when the break up leaves you so angry that you want to make them pay. I have seen the dark side of breakup revenge and it is not pretty, my friends! Confuscious says, “Before you go on a journey of revenge, dig two graves”, which pretty much says it all.
The thing about breakup revenge is that it probably won’t even lessen your pain. People believe that their exes will be so hurt by it. It would only prove that they were right to break [More]
- 6:21 am Thursday, July 31st, 2014 by Wise Diva
When you meet someone and the chase starts, pursuing them becomes a game. Some people are into that and enjoy the pursuit. They like the challenge of those who play hard to get. Do you enjoy a little challenge? I can agree that it leads to stronger attraction but how long should the chase last?
My friend Gary likes high maintenance women so he loves a challenge. He thinks that women who make it easy for men to pursue them send a bad message. I worry about him being mislead by these women but he [More]
- 5:58 am Wednesday, July 30th, 2014 by Wise Diva
My friend Paul is apprehensive about giving women gifts. He has only been seeing someone a few months. She has a birthday coming up but he believes giving gifts too early is a mistake. In the past, giving gifts backfired on him. He thinks that it conveys a message that you’re trying to buy affection.
I have noticed that men don’t pursue women through gifts and it is probably best when you are unsure where you stand. If you know the feelings are mutual, I think it is sweet to buy gifts for one another.
- 6:50 am Tuesday, July 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva
There is a photo that keeps popping up on social media that generated a little buzz. The image shows a young African American lady bending down in front of her man with a ring… proposing in front of a lot of people. The guy seems shocked and somewhat pleased. I wondered if he said yes, and if so, was he truly ready for this huge step in a relationship.
The reaction to the photo ranged from humor to outrage. I saw blog posts and memes that basically implied that a woman who has to propose to her [More]
- 6:00 am Monday, July 28th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I read somewhere that we are often drawn to people who remind us of ourselves. On some level, We think that we are most comfortable with people who are very similar to us. Would you date someone with a similar personality as you?
I think that people who are introvert or not outgoing can be drawn to their counterparts. As often as we hear that opposites attract, there is something to be said about seeking your own personality traits. Laid back and mellow people can easily get turned off by the “live out loud” types -and vice versa.
If you met someone [More]
- 6:49 am Thursday, July 24th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I recently had a young lady complain to me about a string of awful dates she had had to endure. When I asked her a few follow up questions, it became apparent that she was part of the reason why her dates were so dreadful. She was the type of woman who sits back and waits to be entertained and dazzled. That would work fine if the date was an audition for a show, but in a date setting? That’s bizarre!
Why would you not contribute to the conversation and be engaging on a date? You should [More]
- 5:59 am Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014 by Wise Diva
The other day I heard a couple being teased because they had fallen so hard for one another. It was kind of sweet because the man was getting called out for doing things he had never done for any woman. Things like walk her little puppy despite his disdain for little dogs. They said it must be love!
When you are in love you act differently and do things you never thought you would do. I will know I’m in love if I find myself happily making home cooked meals. Sometimes the happiness that you [More]
- 5:58 am Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva
Being in a relationship can be more expensive then being single. Breaking up a relationship can also cost you, especially if they sue you for dating alimony! That’s right. It’s a thing. Dating. Alimony.
They were talking about it on Q100’s The Bert Show recently. A woman dated someone wealthy. He promised her a fabulous lifestyle and she rearranged her life for him. When things when south, there is an expectation to hold up the agreement. Email, texts, and other documents that a lawyer can provide as proof some kind of compensation should be made [More]
- 5:00 am Monday, July 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva
I have heard some men state that part of dating is determining if a woman is marriage material. The men who want a wife seem to know if the women they meet exhibit qualities a wife should have. Generally speaking, I think women also view romantic prospects through a husband-father prism.
So how would you determine if someone is marriage material? I’ve heard one man say her alcohol intake, amount of partying, and cooking skills lets him know a lot. Women probably don’t even realize the level of scrutiny they are under during dating! [More]
- 7:23 am Friday, July 18th, 2014 by Wise Diva
In the book of dating commandments, thou shall not fall for your booty call/caller has to be the one broken the most. You know, it is very easy to start out a friends with benefits situation then convince ourselves it’s something more. A booty call is not a relationship that is complicated, we just pivot to this idea because emotions get involved.
What do you do when you start to “feel” something besides lust for the booty call? Ignoring it and wishing it will go away? Yeah this does not work. Eventually you have to deal with [More]