Posted: 7:20 am Monday, August 25th, 2014

Relationships: Who am I to you? 

By Wise Diva

This weekend was stressful for one couple. After the guys failed to introduce his woman as his girlfriend at a social event, things got intense. She could not understand how someone she spends all her free time with, cooks for, and treats like a King, doesn’t want to label her as The Girlfriend.

For his part, he doesn’t understand why she needs the title. They are always together and he is happy with her. Why can’t that be enough for her? This is a common issue when you have two people with different ideas about commitment.

Some people think your actions and feelings should be enough. These are usually the same people that believe adding a title changes the dynamic and expectations of the relationship.

Do you believe there should be a big talk about relationship labels? Would it bother you if someone you were seeing didn’t introduce you as their significant other? What difference does it make if you two are happy?

18 comments
SlimNu
SlimNu

Anyone still in here?  Thinking about painting the bathroom but I see getting behind the toilet is going to be a challenge...Any ideas?

SlimNu
SlimNu

Oh okay, gotcha! ;-)

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

@SlimNu  nope, don't do the shacking thing, if she comes and stay with me with the intention of this is our home then we going and getting married, not next year, not when the money is right, but right then! 

SlimNu
SlimNu

@Single & Happy Are you saying you never want to live together with your boo from here on out? Keep errrrrything separate?

SlimNu
SlimNu

@Single & Happy  In my last relationship, we lived together....it didn't start out like that but eventually morphed into that. And of course I did all that domestic stuff...cook, clean, wash clothes, shop for the home...

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

why we got to have titles (LMAO) 


@SlimNu umm I don't think I've ever dated some long enough that they came over and organized my closet or washed my clothes, don't want them doing any of that if they don't live here! :-D

SlimNu
SlimNu

@Single & Happy  If we are newly dating, no i'm not cooking and cleaning for you...Now if we've gotten settled in with each other and are together, of course i'm going to do those things. But if we're on our 3rd date, i'm not coming over organizing your closets, washing your clothes etc...

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Single - I know you asked Slim, but let's just say membership has it's privledges! I was very nice to my dates, boyfriends & I'm great to hubs. But there are certain things I would not do for just a dude if went out with a few times versus a boyfriend versus a husband. I would venture a lot are like that. To say I treated everyone across the board the same would not be true & not fair really.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Slim - I agree with all that you said. Folks don't want to be accountable for anything, just want to "see how it goes & have fun". Fun for you, not for me.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Morning gang!

Sounds like two people that have different ideas about the dynamics of a relationship. And both have a right to feel how they feel about such. Those folks that are in the "we don't need a title,being happy & being treated well should be enough" camp are usually the same folks in the "we don't need a piece of paper/marriage to prove our love" camp. That was never "enough" for me. I like to know exactly where I stand & I like things tied up in a neat bow legally. I learned very early in the game never to assume. One time getting my feelings hurt was enough for me! People need to communicate early their views on commitment & titles & such, & seek out like-minded folks.

SlimNu
SlimNu

I'm curious how long these two have been dealing with each other...Seems like these days folks rather move without those special talks, to help them have the option to bail without responsibility. Either we're together or we aren't...At some point, expectations, desires etc need to be addressed.

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

That good morning was for Single....Since we are the only ones commenting on today's topic.


Although I meet ladies on a regular basis, I have become fascinated with meeting women online. Hopefully I will run into Wisa  Diva, that is how she gets her dates. hehehehehe! 

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Good Morning Everybody! 


Grown folks need to have the same conversation that teenagers have. Also, converse about what are your expectations for being the girlfriend/boyfriend. The problems we suffer from today regarding relationships is the lack of communication. When you are planning to attend a function talk about scenarios that might occur so you can handle. 


If two people are bonding together work on becoming a team and being respectful of the person who is putting forth an effort to show they care and love you. Hopefully dude is treating her like a queen. If not she needs to dump him and come to the DIRTYBIRD!  hehehehehe!

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Hey everyone


She could not understand how someone she spends all her free time with, cooks for, and treats like a King, doesn’t want to label her as The Girlfriend. hmmm that's her first mistake, if she wanted to be a girlfriend she should have gotten that first. 


Would it bother you if someone you were seeing didn’t introduce you as their significant other? If you haven't had the discussion then you are what they introduce you as. what if it was the other way around and he introduced her as his girlfriend and she didn't want to be. you should never assume anything! 

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

@SlimNu so does that mean you not cooking and treating me like a king until you get the title??