Posted: 7:11 am Monday, August 18th, 2014

Marriage: Husband qualities? 

By Wise Diva

There are important things that married couples I know say helped them in their first years of marriage. You are adapting to one another and learning more than you ever did though dating. It helps when you are both mature and good communicators. My friend Chris said a man should possess certain “husband” qualities too.

Chris told me that until he got married, he didn’t know how important it was to be humble. Admitting when he was wrong was not something he was used to. He thinks his ego and pride had to get checked. I wondered if men developed more qualities after they got married out necessity?

Do you think having “good” husband qualities comes after time? How can women know if the men they are dating will make good husbands or life partners?

35 comments
Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Have a great evening everybody...read y'all tomorrow!

:-)

:-)

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Kimmie- Chile....I felt all "shiney and new"..after leaving the spa.  I felt like Suge Avery from "The Color Purple" when she said,  "I FEELS LIKE SANGIN!!!"

Copland's is dangerous...but in a good way.  Hadn't been there in some years but will definitely be going back in the near future.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Sounds nice Sassy - all the things I like - spas, brunch!

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Sassy did you have a good weekend?

@DirtyBird-Rise-up -Yes I did!! Started it off at Spa Sydell (after running some quick errands that morning)and ended it downtown with a few friends on Saturday.  Went to Copeland's for brunch Sunday and spent the rest of the afternoon watching tennis.  Serena and Ivanovic was a good match.  Ivanovich handed Sharapova her @ss  the night before...it was still a good match, though. 

It's so nice to be in a position to splurge on yourself and not have to worry about it.   

Celisea
Celisea

Yes, it matters what you do.  I tell my kid, there is a line with God...sometime crossing it will take you to the point of no return.  And just like God watches out for babies and the elderly, a disobedient child will be cut off suddenly and without remedy.

Celisea
Celisea

The story of the lady being hijacked at Phipps....was done by a 17 year old...and this is what I'm saying.  Good thing he was caught, cause I'll bet my check too more incidents and he life would have been snuffed out. Good thing he was caught and will be doing time. You CANNOT live reckless and with no regard and God don't come for you.  That's just like folks that rob homes.  You may do it a few times and get away (not get away with it, but get away), but when you see those stories where the perp is shot during the robbery by their intended victim and killed.....it was bound to happen. 

God sits high and watches down low.

Now, if that cop was not justified in his shooting, trust he'll meet his.....NO STONES GOES UNTURNED

Celisea
Celisea

And if THIS was his behavior, this incident is not the first. This is his character...but again, just some things I've heard.

Celisea
Celisea

I have heard many stories and versions of the happenings in Ferguson, however this young man didn't seem to regard laws or people. From what I hear, he was stopped for jaywalking and the rest ensued. I read where he push the cop's door (during that incident) and things went awry.....just what I heard.

Then robbery video...some say strong armed robbery, others say he placed the money on the counter....whatever it was I can't condone his behavior. If he was in the right, why did the store clerk/owner come from behind the counter? If he stole whatever he possess, that's even worse. The way he tossed him around was disrespectful...no regard, for adults or his superiors. His mama should have taught him that as a kid. Respect your elders. Now, if he doesn't respect authority and people, their property, etc., he's bound to meet his fate.

I saw another clipping with him and 3 friends who alledgedly robbed a hotdog stand just 5 days before this incident.

Many young lives are being snatched out today because this generation as a whole are lazy, disrespectful, lack morals and don't respect God (first), authority, laws of the land. There is a price to pay for this...most don't know though, cause God has been placed on the back burner. Most live off their feelings...and that's all. God requires certain things of us, and because you just don't know or aren't knowledgeable, won't get you a pass. You're still held accountable.

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Same here!


Nice to be back in the city where the SUNDRESS IS A THING OF BEAUTY... hehehehehe!

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Dirty - it was nice, ready for the next one already!

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

I have marriage qualities and playa qualities it depends on the situation and what's going on in my life to see which one will be shown in the relationship... hehehehehe!


The Brown situation is uncalled for period, how many situations have folks been involved in a situation with the police and they decide to follow the law and did not use deadly force? Happens all the time, you are hired to do a job.Now do what you are paid to do!

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Purple - yeah but you know all the bad racial stuff only happens in the South! Racism is over everywhere but in the south. (Sarcasm)

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

That part of the country is where the Dredd Scoot decision took place, think about that.  That area missed the civil rights movement as well.


That level of force was not required for that kid, shoplifting..really!  If he ran from the cop and got away it didn't warrant shooting him.  he was not violent in that situation that required the cop to shoot him.  But once again, that's the risk you take when doing a crime.  

RealKat
RealKat

How did Chris find a woman to marry him if he didn't learn how to be humble until AFTER he was married? BTW: Thanks to the woman who took Chris off to be her problem alone.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Sassy - We've been going back in time as a nation for awhile now, and something such as this was bound to make things come to a head. You just cannot continue to abuse people & expect to get away with it & they just take their ball and go home. Whatever the kid's faults nothing he did deserved that kind of reaction from that cop. It's like the lives of certain groups in this country are not worth a damn. And miss me with the blaming the victim and the character assassinations too!

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

I think so,too...to shoot an unarmed person six times is a bit much.  I thought cops were supposed to shoot to maim first, then to kill if that didn't deter the perpetrator?  Either way, I wonder what the third autopsy will reveal that the first two haven't? 

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

Kimmie, it was a nice fun weekend, grilled and hung around.


Sassy, being that Mike Brown 6'4 was shot in the top of the head in a back to front manner...someone has to answer for that.  Kid was not squeaky clean, but I think the cop got carried away also.

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

*as though* not thought...but I digress...

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Hey y'all!

What do you guys think is going to be the outcome of the Mike Brown case? That case, along with the newly imposed curfew almost seems as thought we're going back in time....and not in a good way.  I hope they don't try to vilify the victim in order to attempt to justify the end result.

Now they're talking about performing a third autopsy for the Federal case...this is reminiscent Trayvon.

Oh and, I saw a lovely tribute to Robin Williams last night on the comedy channel.  He was battling so much...it still doesn't seem real.  This will definitely make one re-evaluate a lot of things in this life...

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Purple - it was nice, very busy. Spent most of it chauffeuring kids to different events. I wish I had someone to drive me around!lol. How about yours?

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Purple- didn't think about it, but you are right-you have to be partnered with the right person for those qualities to show!

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

Husband qualities/ wife qualities.  I think everyone has them inherently.  It takes being partnered with the right person for those qualities to show themselves. Otherwise it would be forced and not real.  Besides, everyone doesn't see qualities the same.  What Kimmie may see as a husband quality, Sassy may not.  Single may see something as a wife quality that I do not.


I guess today's topic is geared towards women, unless you are gay.  So I should not have answered. 

Celisea
Celisea

I was on vacay last week, gotta run and get caught up....TOODLES!!!

Celisea
Celisea

I absolutely LOOOOOVE, just ADORE the fact that even on the blog's po'est days some el lamo continues to be fixated on me.  I come in, post my thoughts and move it along.  I just don't have it in me to stoop to "sniffing" behind another....ESPECIALLY a woman....lolol  I think it is HILARIOUS and speaks to such shallow character.  I do.  I absolutely eat it up :) :) :) You go girl (me, that is)

Alleybat much?  Lawd please help her/him/it/that....whatever it is.  From what I've seen and heard, it's no wonder, no surprise.

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Now that the air is fresh and clean...

Do you think having “good” husband qualities comes after time?

I think there are qualities people go into relationships with...and hopefully as they grow and mature, more good qualities will develop... That can't be said for everyone, so I won't paint that stroke with a broad brush and generalize.  

 How can women know if the men they are dating will make good husbands or life partners?

As we've said here before, once the other person's "representative" leaves and the real individual shows up, then and only then will women know.  What's more important is knowing what to look for in the first place.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Morning gang!

I'm with you Single, simply sounds like dude didn't mature in some ways until he was married. It's also true that some folks just never "get it" in some ways whether they marry or not.

I think there are some basic good qualities that one should look for in a partner. There are some deal breakers, though, that I would not go into a marriage "hoping" dude catches on to "one day". Not being selfish, knowing how to compromise, not always wanting everything to be "your way", responsible with money, not having a quick temper & blowing a fuse every time something doesn't go right - these are things you should be able to pick up on if you truly get to know a person before you marry.

Celisea
Celisea

Two comments....WOOOOW Po thang. I'm gone...lol

Celisea
Celisea

So, I suppose had Chris not gotten married he'd still be walking around a jerk?!?!?  Just woooow. Who don't know that humility should be factored into life.....married or not??? What grown man still walking around in his ego?  There's more to the world, life and living, than you, Chris!!  Get over yourself!! lol  Yeen gotta jump the broom to learn when you're wrong, you're wrong.....AND SHOULD ADMIT IT! 

Diva, I seriously don't understand your train of thinking.  How about human qualities?  Adapting is what you do, or should be doing everyday, everywhere, no matter the person.  I didn't say bend til you break.  You should have been taught this heading to the sandbox, umpteen years ago.  SMH at these folks Diva write about.

A good partner is NOT made subsequent to a relationship, a good partner is that person that can be and do with anyone, any person, anywhere

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Hello all


Diva, maybe you should give the ages of these people, sound like Chris didn't mature until he got married. Admitting you're wrong is part of taking responsibility for your your actions. Shouldn't take marriage to figure that out. Hell some married folks still haven't figured that out. 


Is there such a thing a good husband/wife qualities, we can all make a list, but it really depends on the individuals involved. 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

@Kimmieakasmooth 

And miss me with the blaming the victim and the character assassinations too!

I noticed that that was the first thing they started doing...trying to portray him with all these negative connotations to bolster their non-existent case.