Posted: 7:45 am Thursday, August 14th, 2014

Dating : The call plan 

By Wise Diva

When you meet someone and exchange numbers, do you usually plan to call them in a week’s time? I remember a guy asking for my number and called it like months later. I only programmed him in phone as “Patrick” from CVS because that is literally the only info I had. What is the point of calling months later, though?

Taking someone’s number out of feigned interest or pity is second to outright rejection. If there is not real intent to get to know someone more, you can always say “Hey, nice running into you” and then keep it moving.

Of course this is all part of the dating game, which we all know is really a numbers game – no pun intended. It is smart to actively ask for and get phone numbers to increase the likelihood that you can actually connect with someone later.

Do you give your number to people with whom you are unsure? If you are mildly attracted to them or the first impression was not great, what do you do when they give you their number?

25 comments
DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Leggs go ahead text me or a call this weekend! Come on mami!  Ariva!  


A lot of folks have truly fallen off their rockers, so much lack of respect for the fellow human being. 

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Dang it leggs, how could you not invite to an all girls slumber party? 

Leggs123
Leggs123

Texting for a booty call tells a person exactly how you feel about them, no pretense sugar coating with words not fitting ones actions.  Texting says it all.  Yousa trick...


Dirty ~ I don't do guest appearances.


Dirty ~ no get together.  A few of us met a few weeks ago for drinks but that was it (all females)...oops, that's exactly what you were hoping for.

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

le, le, leggs....Can we meet for din, din dinner to, to tonight.  I am not sure why so many folks rely on the text for serious communication. It is funny to see folks out to dinner and both are looking at their phones and not talking....Miss me with that!


I will text for a booty call, I need to call you and talk you out of those panties....hehehehehehe!


Leggs will you be able to make a guest appearance tomorrow? Also did u guys have a get together and you did not notify me? urrrrrrrrrr

Leggs123
Leggs123

It certainly helps those that stutter.  Ok, I'm feeling jokey jokey now...been doing tedious, time consuming work all week.  I

Leggs123
Leggs123

Texting is fine, but not to solely carry out a conversation.  If everyone texts to communicate, how will we feel the warmth of one's voice, the tone of their words, the longing in their voice (lol).

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

I've found that I enjoy texting (not a real man) Lately I just don't like talking on the phone, but I can answer a text when ever I feel like it. 

Leggs123
Leggs123

Texts should be used to change a previous established time to meet, a quick hello letting them know you're thinking about them, confirm grocery list or whatever, but never, never as a full blow conversation.

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

@Leggs123 text to me should only be used when voice is not available.  LOL, I have a notification of about 34 texts that I haven't even looked at in over a two weeks.  Yep all new text, that I am not even going to check. :)

Leggs123
Leggs123

I certainly agree, Purple.  It behooves me that so many texts and never pick up the phone and say hi.  I met this tenderoni over the weekend and we exchanged numbers.  I got a text the next morning asking how is my day going and that he spent much of the night throwing up!  I didn't respond.  Of course, haven't heard back since, and I'm good with that.

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

If you have my number or I have yours, the first contact shouldn't be a text.  Pick up the phone. Also just because we have exchanged numbers, that doesn't mean we are going to talk more than once a day or all day everyday.  I don't have that much to say, whether I like you or not.

Leggs123
Leggs123

"They never hurt my feelings by NOT asking for my number. It didn't feel good tho, when u felt u really hit it off & dude doesn't call. I never offered my number to a guy that didn't ask for it either. It was all on them. Their loss but certainly not mine!"

Had to repeat, better than just "like."

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Leggs- I don't know why it's so hard. Especially for men. They never hurt my feelings by NOT asking for my number. It didn't feel good tho, when u felt u really hit it off & dude doesn't call. I never offered my number to a guy that didn't ask for it either. It was all on them. Their loss but certainly not mine!:)

Leggs123
Leggs123

kimmie ~ I agree but I find it a play on one's emotions.  I do realize some feel they're giving someone an ego boost by asking for the number, but then go outside and drop the number in the can or wherever they may discard it.  Why is it so difficult to simply thank someone for the good conversation, their insight and wish them a good evening?



Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Hey Gang!

I think a lot of folks take numbers & say they are going to call out of politeness. Most are not comfortable with "hey it was nice talking to you, gotta run!" & keeping it moving. I learned to take it all with a grain of salt when I was dating. I almost never gave out my number & if I did I didn't put much stock in it that they would call. I also didnt take many either. I just didn't meet many prospects this way that actually panned out.

Leggs123
Leggs123

Dirty ~ so you think we all need some help.  I agree, we need help navigating the BS of the generation we are dealing with (lol).  Seriously, BS has been around forever, but blame goes to both sexes.  Different breed of man, different breed of woman!

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

SlimNu....Send me those digits,  I need to schedule you some hand therapy....You need to hands one to cook with and one to drink with while cooking....hehehehehe!

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Thats Right ,you tell em Leggs...Now give me your digits and I will call you on this date in 2015. hehehehe!


Why even bother to go thru the process. I know guys who are attached maybe married and they strike up a conversation with a fine woman and because the conversation and chemistry was very good, they fill the need to ask for the digits. Just learn how to say, it was great talking to you and keep it moving knuckleheads...

Leggs123
Leggs123

If we exchange numbers, I certainly do NOT expect to hear from you months later.  If that's what you're doing, it only tells me you weren't interested in me in the first place but probably thought I might make a nice placeholder.  You now decide to call probably because all your other prospects are busy.  It's like fishing in the pond, calling #s to see who will bite. Seriously, please miss me with that mess!!!!

Good morning!

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Good Morning!


Man...Who does that? The men are surely disappointing these days. So many stupid games. If, I get Wise Diva digits, our dating will become one of the topics of discussion. In fact if I date any of the ladies from the blog, there will be a topic posted because you all need some help. hehehehehe!


Let the shenanigans began.


Folks are stressing out too much today. We are not laughing enough and having enough fun. Well except me and Single we are living the life.


Live, enjoy, laugh, love and have plenty of good body slapping, body sweating sex....

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Hello everyone


I don't play then numbers game, if I get your number I'm going to use it soon. If you take my number I let you know that if you're not going to use it, don't take it. It aint that serious. 

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

@Leggs123 Madd face!!!


You don't want to hear my voice, texting gives me a minute to think before I react (LOL)