Posted: 6:47 am Tuesday, August 12th, 2014

Dating: Careful where you click 

By Wise Diva

My friend Sara told me she was trying something new with her dating approach. She refuses to follow someone she is interested in on social media. She won’t even Google them. This revelation comes after many disappointing discoveries about online behavior of men.

Her advice is careful where you click! Some people take on this “online persona” that barely represent who they truly are. If you happen to see something questionable, is it really their personality or a faux image?

Have you ever lost interest in someone after seeing their social media accounts? Does your online personality closely resemble your offline personality?

70 comments
RealKat
RealKat

This reminds me of the pictures people are posting showing their "casual" side versus their "formal" side on social media to show what people perceive and what is real. Throwing out gang symbols and then posing in your cap and gown shows two sides to a person. What side do you want to show? Or rather, what side do you hope the media shows to others if anything were to happen to you?

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Leggs123...There you go have system failures again....I think I need to come and play doctor with you. I will wear my all white outfit....hehehehe!   Oh, I have a stethoscope. 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Houston, we have a problem!! 

@Leggs123 can't get back in the system and asked me to pass along these sentiments:

Dirty ~ I will never become a groupie for anything.  I dance to my own beat....

SassyMe ~ everyone I spoke to felt the same way.  I sat at Taco Mac for 4 hrs eating and drinking waiting for the after party to begin at 10:00.  Heck, I just paid $20 in parking.  I wasn't going back home so my friend and I found grabbed a bite then joined some others at another table and yuk yuk it up.  They did their best to try to diffuse the embers that could quickly turn into sparks.

Dirty ~ cracking up at Single having her email address and you don't.  You need to tighten up!

@Purple Reign - I'm not involved in the Ebola situation and the patients being treated are down the street.

SlimNu
SlimNu

@Purple Reign You wanted to know if who was involved? Do you mean all of us ATLiens?

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

When I saw the Ebola people going to Atlanta, I wondered if you are involved in any way or close to where they are?


Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

"it's like having an imaginary friend, it's kind of hard to tell who it is when it's all in your mind (LOL)"

*flatline*

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

@Celisea .....Will you expose the person who has been harassing you for the past 4 yrs before the blog shut down? Or will you just keep going with the shenanigans?


Dang-it Single has Slimnu e-mail address, he is a step ahead....... 

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

@Single & Happy I'm not knocking it, it's just not for me.  LOL you see how sporadic I am on here, i'd never be on social media. lol

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

@Leggs123  I need the mega or power ball numbers I'll break you of a lil sumn sumn 



@Purple Reign social media has some great (additive) games (LOL) I don't have any other use for it 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

" If a person's life is sooo great, seems like that bs would be but a fart in the wind..."

Exactly...

But as you stated, they're having a hard time letting go...separation anxiety maybe?  I don't have a life maybe?  I ain't got !sht else to do maybe...man the possibilities are limitless and too easy....lol

Yeah Felicia, I know you're still reading... 

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

I don't do Social Media and I don't google folks, I do stuff the old fashioned way.  Just get to know them.  I am who I am and I can't be described. lol  I could only imagine if some people were in real life they way they are on this blog.  Seems like it would be a life of turmoil and drama or many situations that could be avoided by just being mature.

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

SlimNu excellent points we could have solve that riddle 2yrs,8 months, 22 days and 15 minutes ago.


SlimNu  u need 2 hands to handle THISSSSSSSSSS!  hehehehe!

SlimNu
SlimNu

It is getting rather old...how about contributing to the topic as opposed to spewing the same nonsense that no one else cares about? I think that point in time when the shenanigans were going on, must've been the most attention they've gotten. So we're having a hard time letting go of that. If a person's life is sooo great, seems like that bs would be but a fart in the wind...

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Hello Ms. Leggs.....I see you hanging out with the stars....Which one did you become a groupie for? hehehe!

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Man .....Somethings never seem to change.Dude must be banging that head against the head board quite often. Or maybe dude is not giving it to her proper! 


Dang it Single now I will have to go work-out tonight... SlimNu stated she wanted it from a strong person..hehehehe!

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Ultimate package includes everything but the actual event...

@Leggs123 - that makes no sense to me...and I'm with you..that is NOT the Ultimate package.  To me the word "ultimate", sounds ALL inclusive....isn't that what ultimate means....you get errthang right?  I would've been mad as hell,too...

Glad you had a good time, though!!  

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Put that in a song and remix it while you're at it....then send it to me to see if I approve....lol    

Well?!?!?!   Where is my remix?!?!?  

lololololol.......

Get the phck outta here with that isht....run tell that  :-)

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

*Diva* not *Dive* but you get the jist...silly wabbit.

Leggs123
Leggs123

Hey Single.  Today is the first I've been able to blog since sometime last week.

Here's my recap, not that anyone asked, of the Neighborhood Awards.  I had a blast.  You all know I won the "ultimate" package which got me into every event.  Had a freaking  blast at the KEM/O'Jays all white concert, Expo was ok with a lot of overpriced vendors (may want to return to Vegas), Comedy w/Nephew Tommy was good (even got a picture taken with him), and the after party with Bel Biv DeVoe was FABULOUS.  Anybody notice anything missing?

Got dressed, stood in line for the award show itself Saturday night only to be turned around at the door, fully embarrassed and .38 hot that I did not have tix for the got damn main event!!!!  Ultimate package includes everything but the actual event...dumbclucks...absolutely unfreaking believable.  I'm here so I'm going to say this....ONLY IN GEORGIA!  Was told if I wanted to attend the award ceremony there were tix available for $99.00.  Now, if they had put a got damn disclaimer with the "ULTIMATE" prize, I wouldn't be upset.  This didn't make any sense to me!  Overall, I throughly enjoyed everything else I did at World Congress Center.

Celisea
Celisea

Nooooooooow, coooome for meeee, now come for meeeee,  chile justa c'mon ova here fawz me, just cooooooooooommmme, fooooooooooooooooor ,mmmmmmmmmmmmmeeeeeee

I made a song!! :)

Y'all be sweet!

Celisea
Celisea

I just hollered. Gone of the days of bullying and scratching and clawing.  Well for me.  EVERYONE knows I'm NEVER afraid....I don't need to prove that.  I'm still laughing...changing to the big bad wolf outfit....

"Now come for me" (said that in m contralto voice)...lolol  Wait, "now come for me" (said that with ratchedness), ooooh, "now come for me" (said standing up and forceful)....my neighbors are dying....hahahahaha

Single?  Chile boo, you're the only made that stay "gossip" ready. Ready to birl rumble?  He said, she said wears so well them manties you stay wearing....

I'm gone.  I'z scuuuurrreeeddd (is there an emoticon that shakes)....bwah ah ah ah ah....BOO! 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Side stepping...

In other news...I was floored, stunned and just saddened at the loss of Robin Williams.  The fact that he committed suicide is sad but the struggles he had prior to it was just as sad.  He did what a lot of comedians have done on stage by taking his pain and making others laugh... Not that I was ever supposed to know this in the past, but some of the  details of his struggles with alcohol, cocaine and deep depression are coming to light and it's just sad all around.  You NEVER know what others are going through...even if they're smiling all the time.  My condolences to his family, friends and all who are affected by this.  :-(

"some people really need to get a life! Those are the only shenanigans going on here."

COSIGN!!! 

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Hey leggs

Get back from the gym to this!! some people really need to get a life! Those are the only shenanigans going on here. 

Leggs123
Leggs123

I do not google people, search for them on FB or stalk them via social media.  However, I will look them up on a criminal database I'm privy to.  Other than that, I'll get to know you the old fashioned way.

If I find myself in a relationship, no status would be posted on FB...I do not understand all that updating malarkey, but to each their own.  All you really need is to check in with the person standing in front of you (or besides you).

HELLO!!!

Celisea
Celisea

Ain't no dag 11 people listening....that's YOU, Captain Blog-a-lot....hahahahahahahaha

Celisea
Celisea

Hadn't been here in a couple of days, been on ma grind, decided to peek in. I don't know if the one somebody behind the names is more sad than hilarious.  Who posts as several and not know how transparent?? Who wants to jump in to have on person blogging as several. 

THIS is what shut the blog down.  Folks lying and pretending.  I just have too much pride to CONTINUE posting with one somebody allowing them to believe they're bright enough to pull it off.  Folks will ask about the people listening....duuuh it ain't rocket science.  If you have several monikers, now you have to log in to blog....and naturally if you've got 2,3,4 name then there ain't no audience....THAT'S YOU AND ALL YOUR SIGN-ONS!!!!

Will shenanigans just die, please???  Maybe the blog can revive.  One person turning the crank makes for cray cray.....I'm serious.....SAD OR HILARIOUS??

I'm gone back to what I was doing

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

So SlimNu you are all mine on the weekend....I need all hands to be working for what I have in store for us..

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

@SlimNu no not you, I though Sassy did some kind of research with stuff like that.

SlimNu
SlimNu

@DirtyBird-Rise-up She'll never tell....don't waste your time lol  It makes it more relevant if the mystery factor is present

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

@SlimNu I will pick you up, carry you to the bed and gently lay you down :-)  (LOL) 

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

@Celisea Don't you worry about me and my manties!! (like your opinion really matters)  you need to realize that you are only important in your own world!! you really need to get a life. You must not be getting enough attention off the blog so you had to come here and see if you could get some. 

Toodles!! 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

@Purple Reign @Sassy Me -) @SlimNu It is very humbling...when you help people the genuine gratitude makes me want to help/give back more....not only to our constituents in Africa but here in the U.S. as well.