Posted: 7:47 am Friday, August 8th, 2014

When snooping goes wrong 

By Wise Diva

If you are in a relationship, do you ever feel tempted to look in their phone? If you don’t have a reason to suspect anything, yet you still feel the urge to “spot check” things, do you snoop?

I ask because a friend told me recently that she was going through her significant other’s gym bag. She said it was to “clean” it out for him but she discovered that he had a totally different phone. It was a different phone number then his work phone which means he had 3 phones. Should wondered if she should bring it up. She runs the risk of that back firing of course, but what do you think?

If you snooped and found something questionable, do you confront them with what you found?

Do you believe that your partner should have spot checks on their fidelity or behavior when they aren’t with you?

35 comments
Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Sassy, I agree, but with this great thing called the internet, everyone thinks it's their business to be all up in your business. 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

@Single & Happy I believe what a person does on/in their private time is just that...private.  I think that's almost akin to firing people over what they post on their facebook pages...where does it end?  But that's just my opinion..

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

@Sassy Me -)  in this "moral values" country we live in, she's a teacher, she shouldn't have that in her phone, what kind of example is she setting for the kids. I wouldn't want someone like that teaching my child. 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

@Single & Happy I was listening to Ryan Cameron on V-103 and they were discussing the story as well.  One caller said if it were his child that did that he woulda whooped that @ss...and the guy sounded so genuine I jokingly said, "I hope one if his kids don't get tore up this afternoon when he gets home"...

But that student was dead wrong.  I wonder what happened to her/him...if anything. I think there should be some kind of repercussion...

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

The times I've sent a pic of my "junk" i took it and deleted it right away.  LOL

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Purp the way people use their phones now, a nekid picture would be the least of your worries. I always try and wipe my phone before handing it to one of those employees. 

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

I'm not talking about the gov, I'm talking about the hourly employee who works at AT&T, Verizon,T-Mobile,SIMPLE cellular companies who have access to your phone stuff.

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Purp we grown, I'm not that important that the gov going to be looking in my phone. 

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

People shouldn't keep naked pics on their phones anyway.  Best to have a solo camera for that, I am sure the cellular carriers can access anything on your phone so can email providers you have on your cell phone.  Those Eric Snowden leaks proved all of that.

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Sassy I read that story, and folks be wondering why I want let them use my phone and keep it password protected, MF to nosy!! 

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Snooping isn't cool and very disrespectful...usually when you go looking for something, you find it. And as for these "spot checks", I think if you have to go to those lengths, then you don't trust your partner....and without trust there's nothing.  It all seems kind of juvenile, really.

This reminds me of the high school teacher fired during the first week of school recently.  She let a student use the phone to call their parents but instead the student accessed, then shared some naked selfies the teacher had taken..   

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Single you are doing it Man!

5 reasons to dump her?

if she is a snooper, but good in the bed get you one get weekend.  Then say its me not you.

If she is a complainer, but good in bed  you know the drill

If she is loud just because, but give good lip service. Well she can get  2 weeekends

If she has bad credit, but can cook buy enough food for her to prepare over the weekend, take all the food home then say its me baby not you.

Celisea
Celisea

Hey Kimmie

Dirty - How do you know the bells haven't tolled already?  :) :)  I'll just say this.....I'll NEVER reveal or tell anything as long as I'm living....on this blog. LOLOLOL  Just know I'm guuud

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

 Kimmie, I agree.  I'm a little to mature for those antics in any shape or form. If I find someone snooping that is grounds for breaking it off.  It "reeks" of distrust.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Hey Purple!

I'm like you, I have nothing to hide but I don't like folks all up in my stuff either.

I just don't have time for that shyt, snooping. If you living foul, imma eventually find out. Whatever!

Purple Reign
Purple Reign

If I come across something I will ask, but I don't come across stuff because I'm not looking.  I'm secure enough in myself and what I do.  If they have something going on, oh well it will come up sooner or later...if it doesn't ever come up I guess I wouldn't care...because things were the same as far as Im concerned.  Don't like people going through my stuff either, then again I have nothing to hide.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Dirty - you're cute!lol!!

Really though, that never would have happened that way with me for several reasons. I don't believe in doing laundry or cleaning up behind a man that's not my husband or ill family member. So his stank gym bag would have been the perfect place to hide it from me!lol! But, sounds like she really was snooping according to Diva. One thing my mom used to tell me- be careful looking for stuff cause you might find something you don't want to see! If I got the balls to snoop, I got the balls to either ask straight up or just dump his behind.

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Dirty going to Key Largo next weekend, St. Marteen next month, Myrtle Beach in Oct and Cozumel in Nov

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Hello to the one  and only Mrs. Beautiful sometimes on point Kimmie,


You like how I mixed a positive word with and average statement?


It appears in this case Diva's friend went snooping thru her man's gym bag and found something she did not know existed.


Key words.. going through..Also did she ask dude if she could clean out his gym bag..Nevertheless a conversation about the discovered item is a waste of time. If he did not tell her about the phone he probably has a good reason.... BAMMMMMMMM!

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Sup Gang??

Hey Dirty, Single, Cel!!

I've never been a snooper, but yeah like Cel said, my head is not in the sand either. If I "come across" something, it's innocent. My hubs & every man I've dated before will tell u that. So if I do find something, it was meant for me to find. Dude was sloppy & set it up that way. So I'm asking & let the chips fall where they may. It's my life, don't have time to be scared to open my mouth and ask about what concerns me!

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

So Celisea are their wedding bells in your future? I need to know if you are going to be off the market before I starting dating this 27yr old stunner.

Celisea
Celisea

There is a difference is snooping versus "coming across something."  No, I don't snoop, but I'm ALWAYS that women that keep my eyes opened.  I'm not going on a hunt, but if something is amiss, trust me it will present itself. I'm not tryna be funny, but I truly wonder about Diva and how she thinks about stuff.  If a friend is innocently "cleaning" out her dude's gym bag and come across yet another phone, ummm MAYBE IT WAS MEANT FOR HER TO SEE IT.  We are not suppose to live with our heads in the sand.  If I come across something or something presents itself to me, why should I be afraid to ask about it?  I know I wasn't snooping or on some hunt.  And if he's got nothing to hide, then he won't mind explaining. 

I don't understand the thought process behind being "relationship fraidy cat."  We grown, I will NEVER be afraid to ask or broach a subject.  That in and of itself will elimate snooping and sneaking.  Lawd, where are we getting these examples and stories and mindset from?  Who is running around sneaking when you can be an adult and ask what you wanna know?

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Yep it that time of the year... 


You have anymore vacation trips lined up this year?


I am lining up a Vegas trip in November and a trip down to Destin in September.

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Working dirty, you mean it's that time of year again (LOL) 

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Single.....I am trying to survive this heat. 


Big time excited in regards to the upcoming football and basketball season. The Browns finally have a head coach and maybe a little excitement with Johnny Football and the King has returned to Cleveland with Kevin Love soon to be in tow. I just might have to move back to CLeveland, Ohio.


What are you upto this weekend?

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

hello all 


What's Dirty


Yep she should run for the border, she snooped, found what she was looking for, now want's to talk about it??

If I found out she snooped, we aint got nothing to talk about, it's time for her to go!!



DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

I am going to do my part and post quite a bit today...


Fellas, if a woman says she is complicated, run for the hills. Translation I am kinda clueless and I like to date multiple men without telling everyone I am a serial dater....hehehehehehe!

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

In fact e-mail me, I only have one phone.  hehehehehehe!

First do you work-out or you just look thru gym bags?

DirtyBird-Rise-up
DirtyBird-Rise-up

Goooooooooddddd Morrrnnnnnnnnnnnnning everybody in blog land!


Easy don't ask run for the Hills. If you have found evidence why did you believe/think a conversation needs to take place. You think he is going to say something to make your already, overly super suspicious self stop snooping?  Get you one last good one in, have dude take you out to something you have always wanted to do, then text and say I don't think this is going to work, its me not you. Problem solved.