Posted: 6:53 am Friday, June 20th, 2014

If you do the asking, should you pay? 

By Wise Diva

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My friend Victor has a woman over pursuing him. She is constantly calling, texting, and tries to make plans. He says she is attractive but seems to aggressive for his taste. When she asked him to go with her to an event she had tickets to, he agreed to the date. After the event he wanted to go but she insisted they go out for drinks and a light dinner. When the bill came, she expected him to pay. Now, he felt that she asked him out and should have paid for the entire evening.

I’ve known Victor a long time, he is very old school and traditional. If he really liked this woman, it wouldn’t be an issue at all for him to pay. So, is he wrong for not paying her part of the bill? Victor says it all worked out because she stopped pursuing him now! I guess not paying for her meal was a deal breaker.

What is your routine? Do you pay when you do the asking? Should you expect to split the bill if you were not the one who pursued the date?

17 comments
Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

Umm okay..well to whomever is still here..please have a very nice weekend.

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

What can be done to resuscitate the blog?  

Sassy Me -)
Sassy Me -)

This is a sad state of affairs...and on a FRIDAY...

This blog needs to be resuscitated....ASAP

Guess I'll go review some more protocols... 

Leggs123
Leggs123

I just logged back in to see if anyone was on the playground.  I see only one post since this morning.

Hey there, kimmie!

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Hey whoever is around!

Whomever asks should pay. I'm old school so I believe in a man doing the chasing. But after a point, even if he's asking me on all the dates, I will treat sometimes. One thing that stuck out with me concerning Victor - he said if he was "interested" he would have had no problem paying! Ladies take note! When a man is truly into you, all this bs like who pays never comes up!

Leggs123
Leggs123

Enjoy your day, Bluz...nothing going on here (yet).

Leggs123
Leggs123

Well do what works for you.

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

LOL!  I did wait until I finished making flash cards before I had a glass of wine.  Tonight, I study and work on one of my papers!  I really don't know how I stayed up that late.  All week, I've been dozing on the couch before 11:00.  The good thing about school wearing my butt out is that I don't need to take Ambien to sleep anymore!

Leggs123
Leggs123

Bluz ~ you have to be more responsible.  You're in school, have a job, you shouldn't be up at 2:30 in the morning drinking and sexing.  LOLOL...hell, you're grown, but you can't complain if that's the route you're taking.

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

I reckon!  I need some action on here today.  Hopefully more people will come in.  

Leggs123
Leggs123

Looks like it's just the two of us.

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

I'm soooooo sleepy.  Cutie Pie and I stayed up late drinking wine.  I think it was close to 2:30 when I went to sleep...

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

Morning Leggs!


I agree with you 100%!  Whoever does the asking should pay for the date...

Leggs123
Leggs123

She asked him out, she wanted to go out after the event to a light dinner and drinks, she should pay!!!

If you split the bill while out on a date, you're not out on a date.

Sounds like she needs to slow her roll and stop being so aggressive, let the hunter pursue his prey if he's interested.  If he doesn't, he's not interested, plain and simple.

Good morning.