Posted: 6:55 am Wednesday, June 18th, 2014

Dating: Misrepresenting 

By Wise Diva

You know the saying, “Overstating one’s attributes diminishes your credibility” is a common issue in dating. It is rampant in online dating but there are many people who misrepresent who they are in person as well. I expect people to put their best foot forward. This is normal. It is when you presented a completely false image that is problematic! What is the point of pretending to be someone you’re not?

I have met men who embellished everything from their wealth to the size of their package. The amount of lies some people perpetuate to land a phone number, get laid, or even get a date is sad. Eventually the truth comes out, and then what?

Have you ever met someone who overstated their attributes? Do you sense right away when this is happening?

Why is it so hard for single people to present their authentic self to each other on dates?

What do you do to stay true to who you are when your first meet someone? How do you show them who you really are with no pretense?

20 comments
SlimNu
SlimNu

This thing is on its last leg....

SlimNu
SlimNu

Oooh, I see now. Thanks

SlimNu
SlimNu

Fay - I'm not sure...I was wondering the same thing. I know swiss said there was some way to view it but whatever he suggested didn't work for me.

FayNope
FayNope

How do you tell who else is on it says 15 listening but I only see 4 people next to that

SlimNu
SlimNu

Well, well well...it is on and popping up in here....NOT lol

Celisea
Celisea

Well i had another one. Oh well

Celisea
Celisea

And there is no "effort" needed to rightly represent. What's wrong with being yourself?? You don't have to be an open book, as it's not time say day 1, but you can be yourself.

I can't stand folks that are deceivers. This is a way of life, of being for some. Just who they're bred to be.

Celisea
Celisea

I was saying folks know what they are. Ain't no misrepresentation!! Before the lie leave your lips, you already know you're a liar! When you step to folks in dishonesty, you know full well you have no good intentions. Bump "misrepresentation." Let's call a spade a spade! IJS

Celisea
Celisea

Diva, why are you unresponsive to your audience and the woes of this janky site??? I KNOW you see the constant complaints!!!!

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Morning all!

I think it's a combo of reasons why some people r not authentic. Very few r completely secure & comfortable in their own skin. Or confident enough to say "take me as I am" and really mean it and r prepared to walk away when someone doesn't accept them. When I see happy couples & someone asked them why they felt the other person was The One, guess what reason I see more than anything? It's always "I am comfortable being myself around him/her". "He/She lets me be me".

Then there r those that say they r looking for certain things, but get with just the opposite. They send out mixed messages about what they really want. For example, dudes will say they want this woman that's "natural", but u see them following the over-made up chick with the weave to her behind. And he bypasses the cute girl with the little Afro and tasteful light makeup.

hazel1
hazel1

good morning.

lot of the times its insecurities that make ppl lie about who they are , looking for instant gratification. little do they know, it will backfire.

There isn't a lot of work required to be yourself actually. you just got to have a healthy self respect and esteem.


FayNope
FayNope

Morning!

No pretenses here...I guess when someone isn't happy about themselves they become a lie not only to you but to them too. Don't take it personally.

SlimNu
SlimNu

Good morning,

Long time no blog...doesn't appear that I've missed much.

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Hey all


I've found  most people, tell you what type of person they are looking for in the first few conversations, then the person  will try to fit that mold to get what they want. I've never felt the need to lie about anything. Take me as I am, or don't take me at all.