Posted: 6:55 am Tuesday, June 17th, 2014

Friends and family don’t like your date 

By Wise Diva

You know the saying “Love is blind” probably originated when someone was too mesmerized to notice red flags. When friends and family all see the problem with our partners, why can’t we see it? Would you be worried if your date was not well liked by those close to you?

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One of our readers is seeing someone new and she was informed that many of her close friends and family were concerned. They said because of her man’s “rough edges” and criminal record, they don’t think he is a good match. She thinks they just don’t know him and his record was from when he was a juvenile. Have you ever have to defend someone’s character?

What would you do if others saw red flags that you don’t see?

23 comments
Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

I sure wish my company would have wifi...I'm having a hard time watching the World Cup game on my phone over the cellular data (luckily I have unlimited data)

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

2 more weeks and I get to be back at the beach for a couple of days!!!

Dynamic2014
Dynamic2014

I am taking a 7 day cruise to Mexico and Belize in the carribean

Dynamic2014
Dynamic2014

Well since no one is posting, and I have time today I will randomly post stuff. I have a vacation planned in July. I have started my shopping and have a few tank tops. I need some cute age appropruate shorts. I may go to Target and look on Wednesday. Hmmm....what else is going on in my life??

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Dynamic - I had ginger chicken & broccoli over brown rice & a mixed green salad.

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

I'm off to lunch...check in later

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Dynamic - the last few times I was just underwhelmed with the food, but today was different. It was tasty & light & just enough. I am going to remember today's meal.:)

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

Yeah...probably fine right now.  We were told they will be doing the manual thing for a bit while they figure out what happened with the breach.

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

That's good to know, thanks. Maybe that's why our waiter said the credit & debit card machine was "down". He had to process it manually with the carbon paper! I will keep an eye on it & Amex is good about letting us know if suspect activity is going on too.

Dynamic2014
Dynamic2014

@ kimmie I LOVE pf changs!! They have a real good spicy chicken dish

Mrs. SexyCool
Mrs. SexyCool

I would think that right now - PF Chang is one of the safest places to use your card because of their recent security issues.

Plus - it's always a good idea to watch your finances regularly.

Mrs. SexyCool
Mrs. SexyCool

I just dropped in.

Rough edges and criminal record?  I'll pass. 

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

I haven't been there in a minute!  Heard they had a security breach though and several debit and credit card numbers have been compromised...if you used a card, keep an eye on your account... 

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Just got back from lunch with a dear friend that works down the street from my office. Went to PF Chang which is not my favorite, but they were pretty good today!

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

I'm sitting here researching replacement windows.  The joys of home ownership...ugh!

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

I'm checking in occasionally...hopefully more people will come in!!! 

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Where the heck is everyone??!! The very day I don't have much work!!

Kimmieakasmooth
Kimmieakasmooth

Morning all!

While ultimately it's your life & your decision on who to be with, sometimes it is worth at least taking a pause and looking at what folks r saying. With me, I would consider the source and how they came at me & what they r saying. If it's one or 2 trusted people whom I respect and trust their judgement and taste, I might at least hear them out. People in my inner circle that I trust like that won't base their opinion on a snap judgment they have made. If it's some info they r privy to that I'm not, bring it to me.

Having said that, what I want to know is how all these folk know about her man's criminal record if it was just some juvenile stuff from back in the day? If he's supposedly grown up & moved past that, why does it still seem to be front & center. Rough edges? Maybe they think she can do better than him. Sometimes u really can judge a book by its cover. Sorry, that's where my head is right now, especially since I'm raising a daughter. Would not want her bringing home some thug, not on my watch. He could be nice, but not likely!

Bluzgirl
Bluzgirl

Next time my friends and family don't like someone I'm dating, I'm going to listen better.  I found out after the fact how many people disliked The Ex...apparently, I was too blinded by love to hear them when we were together.


Morning

Single & Happy
Single & Happy

Hey all


If my friends and family didn't like my date, I wouldn't care. It's not their life!!