Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

First impressions matter?

  • 6:54 am Tuesday, September 30th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Some people put a lot of effort into the “image” they want to project on the dating scene because they know first impressions are important. Basically, a lot of people think you can judge a book by its cover when you’re single. Of course, this leads to rampant use of false identities, faux personalities, and fraudulent lies. A bit hyperbolic, maybe but have you ever met someone and got the bait and switch later? It’s awful.

Why are first impressions that important if they are based on so little information? Hasn’t someone ever become more attractive [More]

Dating for cash?

  • 5:50 am Monday, September 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I watched Lisa Ling’s new series on CNN, “This is Life” last night. The premiere episode was about Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby dating dynamic. The term alone makes my skin crawl but I wanted to hear about the experiences people shared.

There was a 69 year old man from Atlanta who was seeing a 32 year old woman. What surprised me is that they genuinely liked each other’s company. Their relationship had financial perks but there was no sexual intimacy. The woman talked of how much he has taught her about business and life in general. [More]

What if all their friends cheat?

  • 8:15 am Friday, September 26th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I think it is good to meet the friends of the people you are dating. It can allow you to see them in their element, for one. It also reveals who they consider their inner circle. Although you can learn a lot of good information, there are times when you see or hear something alarming.

Anna met her boyfriends entire crew and learned they all cheat on their wives. Literally all of his closest friends have extra curricular activities that their wives/girlfriends don’t know about. Anna said her man mentioned it sort of casually like he was cool [More]

Screening your dates?

  • 7:06 am Thursday, September 25th, 2014 by Wise Diva

One thing I admire about single men is the fact that they usually screen their dates so well. I’m not talking google searches or background checks. I have male friends who will size someone up and take notice of how she carries herself. They also ask good questions before asking her out.

This screening process can weed out a lot of incompatible, unstable people. Why don’t more women adopt this protocol? I remember asking a friend why she even took the number of one guy when he showed so many signs of being a bum. [More]

Dating: Do you really know them?

  • 6:30 am Wednesday, September 24th, 2014 by Wise Diva

A friend of mine, Ray, has been seeing someone for two years. Ray has been very happy in this relationship so I was surprised when he mentioned a pending break up. When I asked why, he said his girlfriend really misrepresented herself…a lot.

I thought he was overreacting until I got more information. She did sort of revise her past, lie by omission, and pretended to be someone different. It was rather sad to see that she kept a facade going for so long. I started to think about why so many people find it hard [More]

Relationship refresh?

  • 6:00 am Tuesday, September 23rd, 2014 by Wise Diva

Single people aren’t the only ones that get bored easily. People in relationships often feel the need to refresh the spark when things get dull. It is very easy to fall into a couple routine. You go the same places and do the same thing over and over. What do you so to mix it up?

One of our readers wants to spice things up, but he worries that his girlfriend will become insecure when he broaches the topic. He isn’t bored being with her, it’s just their normal routine that makes him want to switch it [More]

Dating: Picked the wrong one?

  • 7:22 am Monday, September 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

Have you ever invested a lot of time and effort in someone only to find out they are a raging jerk? Even when you take your time and pay attention to red flags, things can go downhill. It’s what makes dating about taking risks.

The fact is that taking calculated risks can still end up with the wrong one. I’ve seen people stick it out anyway, though! They don’t want to admit that they invested in the wrong one. Why is that? This is why I believe some single people are dating for the wrong [More]

Standards too high?

  • 6:37 am Friday, September 19th, 2014 by Wise Diva

One of our readers has asked for advice from the blog. Her friends and family tell her that she should be more realistic about what she wants in a mate. She is seeking someone who brings what she does to the table: in shape, educated, ambitious, and attractive.

Because people tell her she has met and dated this type before, they wonder if she uses these standards as an excuse to avoid relationships. She wants to know if anyone has tried to “compromise” on their standards. Does it work? If you switch up [More]

That’s not boring, that’s love

  • 7:30 am Thursday, September 18th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When I hear someone whine about things being too boring in their relationship, I suggest they go rob a bank with their partner. If excitement is what you seek in a romantic relationship, what does that really mean? When you reach a certain maturity level, you don’t want drama and too much excitement. You want peace and passion!

I think some people get into a healthy relationship and don’t know how to handle it. They start manufacturing issues and drama because they fear becoming “boring and dull” in a relationship. Have you ever met someone who constantly talk about [More]

Dating: I’m seeing other people

  • 7:07 am Wednesday, September 17th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Single people get distracted so easily. Some of us flat out have dating ADD! There is a tricky balancing act that comes with “putting yourself out there” and slowing down the sliding doors of dating. How do you pause things long enough to explore something with someone?

My friend Jenna says she isn’t great at juggling men. If she sees a guy she likes and the chemistry is there, she is eager to focus all her attention on him. This gets her into trouble when they aren’t quite where she is. She found out that the guy [More]