Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Handling disappearing acts

  • 7:46 am Thursday, October 30th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Most of us have had to deal with those oh so lovely disappearing acts in our dating past. You know, that is when someone is in hot and heavy pursuit for you for a smooth month, then suddenly stops calling. They get ghost and disappear leaving you bewildered.

Sometimes these ghosts come back to haunt you later, though. What happens then? Do you let them come back into your life if they had a legitimate reason they left?

One of our readers pulled a disappearing act on a young lady and he wants to contact her again. He [More]

Dating: Asking a man out

  • 7:51 am Wednesday, October 29th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I know several women who refuse to even consider asking a man out first. They believe that it is a man’s role to pursue and seek out them out. When the woman takes on that role, many believe that shifts the power dynamic. It’s interpreting the gender roles in its most basic form: women should not take the lead.

The few times I have seen women ask men out, the men seemed flattered and opened to it. I have never heard a man admit to feeling emasculated after being asked out by a man. Isn’t [More]

Avoiding commitment?

  • 7:34 am Tuesday, October 28th, 2014 by Wise Diva

One of our readers just discovered she is dating a commitment-phobe. It is something that took her by surprise. She said she asked all the right questions in the beginning, paying careful attention to what he said. After a couple of months, she realized he had no real desire to take things further.

When you are dating someone new, it is important to find out if you are on the same page. Some people don’t want anything serious or like to keep it casual. Casual isn’t for everybody, though. Folks who avoid commitment usually show [More]

Should you play it dumb?

  • 7:13 am Monday, October 27th, 2014 by Wise Diva

We all can name many shallow reasons not to date someone but would you dumb someone for being too intelligent? I ask because I have heard some women worry about appearing too smart and turning guys off. They actually try to dumb down in hopes of making a good impression. This could be misleading but some people risk it anyway.

When I asked one lady why she downplays her intellect on dates, she said she didn’t want to appear boring and dull. She is a Ph.D researcher but she just tells guys she is a teacher to [More]

Ever worry about dating karma?

  • 7:32 am Friday, October 24th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I was trying to cheer my buddy up because he just broke up with someone. It had been a messy break up after he caught her cheating on him with some married guy from her job. My friend thought she was the one and even had me scouting jewelry stores.

I felt bad for him and I tried to steer clear of the topic of karma. My friend broke a lot of hearts in his dating career. One heart break was caused when he cheated on his girlfriend. I am not saying he deserved what he is [More]

Before you settle down…

  • 5:00 am Thursday, October 23rd, 2014 by Wise Diva

I met up with some friends for dinner recently and one of them brought up his pending nuptials. He said that when he met his now fiancée he already knew he was ready to settle down. There was not much left for him to explore, discover or conquer.

Get your mind out of the gutter, kids. He wasn’t only referring to sexual conquests. Generally, he doesn’t feel like he will miss anything after he gets married. He traveled, jumped out of airplanes, and drank a lot.

This made me think of all the advice well-meaning people [More]

Post-hook up reality check?

  • 7:16 am Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

After you have been intimate with someone, do you think their behavior changes? I asked because one of my friends said that he thinks women often pull a bait and switch in dating. The switch comes after they hook up with someone.

I know, breaking news: Sex changes things, right? Is it because we expect different things after we get physical? The guys that I know think they can tell a lot about a woman by the way she acts after sex. What they truly want becomes apparent: relationship or friends with benefits?

Do you believe [More]

The return of the ex

  • 8:12 am Tuesday, October 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva

Why does it seem as if people from our past always pop up at the worse times? I used to think one of my exes had me under surveillance and waited until I was starting something new to return. Do you have someone who keeps coming back like a bad boomerang from hell?

The basic reason my guy friends tell me is that men come back for the possibility of hooking up. You don’t even really have to even hint at it. They just hope that you will give them a shot for nostalgia’s sake. I [More]

Does love make us crazy?

  • 7:34 am Monday, October 20th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you find yourself stuck in the chimney of your ex-boyfriend’s house, you have to wonder how you got there. Not literally, of course, but it is symbolic! Ms. Figueroa from California probably thought she was doing what women in love do. Her ration and logic took a vacation and left her with desperate and unreasonable.

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Let’s face it, love and infatuation can make you do stupid things. You ever ride around your man or woman’s house looking for strange cars? Congrats, you did something stupid for love. Have you looked up pictures of [More]

Reality check: Women burp!

  • 7:47 am Friday, October 17th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I know what Beyonce sings, but not everyone wakes up flawless. Mere mortals are subject to having displays of human behavior all the time. The reason women love empowerment songs like this is because affirmation is good to hear! The images we see of photoshopped models and retouched photos everyday can make it tough to remember to love ourselves as we are.

Even in dating, women try to keep up some unrealistic facade that they don’t burp, fart, or go to the bathroom. I know many women who go to extreme lengths to conceal their normal body functions. [More]