Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Standards too high?

  • 6:37 am Friday, September 19th, 2014 by Wise Diva

One of our readers has asked for advice from the blog. Her friends and family tell her that she should be more realistic about what she wants in a mate. She is seeking someone who brings what she does to the table: in shape, educated, ambitious, and attractive.

Because people tell her she has met and dated this type before, they wonder if she uses these standards as an excuse to avoid relationships. She wants to know if anyone has tried to “compromise” on their standards. Does it work? If you switch up [More]

That’s not boring, that’s love

  • 7:30 am Thursday, September 18th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When I hear someone whine about things being too boring in their relationship, I suggest they go rob a bank with their partner. If excitement is what you seek in a romantic relationship, what does that really mean? When you reach a certain maturity level, you don’t want drama and too much excitement. You want peace and passion!

I think some people get into a healthy relationship and don’t know how to handle it. They start manufacturing issues and drama because they fear becoming “boring and dull” in a relationship. Have you ever met someone who constantly talk about [More]

Dating: I’m seeing other people

  • 7:07 am Wednesday, September 17th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Single people get distracted so easily. Some of us flat out have dating ADD! There is a tricky balancing act that comes with “putting yourself out there” and slowing down the sliding doors of dating. How do you pause things long enough to explore something with someone?

My friend Jenna says she isn’t great at juggling men. If she sees a guy she likes and the chemistry is there, she is eager to focus all her attention on him. This gets her into trouble when they aren’t quite where she is. She found out that the guy [More]

Are you sure they broke up?

  • 5:59 am Tuesday, September 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Paulette has been seeing a man for a couple of months. When they first met, he was honest about his friendship with his ex-wife. Even though they have been divorced for a couple of years, they talk every week. Paulette thought it was mature and admirable – at first. Now it’s becoming a red flag.

The main concern she has is the access his ex has to him. She has a key to his place and is still close to his family. She doesn’t want to be petty and insecure but it has become something [More]

Is it too soon for sex?

  • 7:17 am Monday, September 15th, 2014 by Wise Diva

The advice I get from male friends about dating usually follow a theme: take it slow. Time allows you to figure things out, become more comfortable, and rule people out. When it comes to sex, waiting gives you a chance to build up chemistry but how much waiting is necessary?

I know some people who hooked up on the first date and later married. This clearly won’t be the case for everyone, so it just depends on what you are seeking. If you want to give your potential romance a better chance, why not wait?

What do you think [More]

Date like a man?

  • 4:55 am Friday, September 12th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Many women are used to being pursued and know how to sit and enjoy male attention. When it comes to flipping the script and asking men out, we shy away from it. Honestly, I think more women would try it if they knew how to turn on the charm.

It takes a lot of confidence to risk rejection and ask someone out. I usually make sure I have an event to invite someone to, like concert or some sport. There is less pressure and you can make it sound appealing. If the guy is attracted to you [More]

Relationships: Not in the mood?

  • 5:33 am Wednesday, September 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Did you ever hear that story about a married guy who emailed his wife a spreadsheet about their sad sex life? He listed all the dates he asked for sex and the litany of excuses his wife gave him.

The wife posted it on the site Reddit because she was that angry he emailed her on her way out of town on a 10-day trip. You can pretty much tell what their relationship dynamic is when it comes to communication!

When everyone was debating this on the internet, a lot of men I know used this as an [More]

Is it all about the chase?

  • 7:19 am Tuesday, September 9th, 2014 by Wise Diva

The common complaint from women that I hear about dating is that men are too focused on the chase. Once they get the phone number, attention, or even hook up, they seem to lose interest. Is it all about the chase?

I know some men who enjoy pursuing women but they don’t get fixated on the chase. They look forward to the time when the object of their desire responds to them. Of course, the chase can be exciting and even sexy, but it can only last for so long.

Do you think some people are all [More]

Dating: Are you too giving?

  • 5:00 am Monday, September 8th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Have you ever met someone who has the biggest heart and is super generous who constantly gets taken for granted? It is so interesting how they gravitate to the ” takers” and end up giving too much. This is common when the “good” guys and the “sweet girls” give a lot to their relationships.

I’ve seen people invest in businesses of the person they are dating. I’ve watched people pay tuition for kids who aren’t their own. All very generous things to do …in a marriage! Dating is probably the time when your generosity should [More]

Great dates don’t have to be expensive

  • 6:21 am Friday, September 5th, 2014 by Wise Diva

The stress of planning a great date can be eliminated if you simplify things. You don’t need a bunch of money to make the date amazing and memorable. I know the most fun and exciting dates were imaginative and creative.

Some of us aren’t good at being creative or thoughtful. Figuring out what your date is in to can be a good start. It will prove you listen and care enough to plan something special. Special can be cheap too! A hike with a picnic. A free concert and dessert afterwards.

What are some of [More]