Misadventures in Atlanta Blog 

An Atlanta dating scene blog, as only our Wise Diva can describe it

Ever worry about dating karma?

  • 7:32 am Friday, October 24th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I was trying to cheer my buddy up because he just broke up with someone. It had been a messy break up after he caught her cheating on him with some married guy from her job. My friend thought she was the one and even had me scouting jewelry stores.

I felt bad for him and I tried to steer clear of the topic of karma. My friend broke a lot of hearts in his dating career. One heart break was caused when he cheated on his girlfriend. I am not saying he deserved what he is [More]

Before you settle down…

  • 5:00 am Thursday, October 23rd, 2014 by Wise Diva

I met up with some friends for dinner recently and one of them brought up his pending nuptials. He said that when he met his now fiancée he already knew he was ready to settle down. There was not much left for him to explore, discover or conquer.

Get your mind out of the gutter, kids. He wasn’t only referring to sexual conquests. Generally, he doesn’t feel like he will miss anything after he gets married. He traveled, jumped out of airplanes, and drank a lot.

This made me think of all the advice well-meaning people [More]

Post-hook up reality check?

  • 7:16 am Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva

After you have been intimate with someone, do you think their behavior changes? I asked because one of my friends said that he thinks women often pull a bait and switch in dating. The switch comes after they hook up with someone.

I know, breaking news: Sex changes things, right? Is it because we expect different things after we get physical? The guys that I know think they can tell a lot about a woman by the way she acts after sex. What they truly want becomes apparent: relationship or friends with benefits?

Do you believe [More]

The return of the ex

  • 8:12 am Tuesday, October 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva

Why does it seem as if people from our past always pop up at the worse times? I used to think one of my exes had me under surveillance and waited until I was starting something new to return. Do you have someone who keeps coming back like a bad boomerang from hell?

The basic reason my guy friends tell me is that men come back for the possibility of hooking up. You don’t even really have to even hint at it. They just hope that you will give them a shot for nostalgia’s sake. I [More]

Does love make us crazy?

  • 7:34 am Monday, October 20th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you find yourself stuck in the chimney of your ex-boyfriend’s house, you have to wonder how you got there. Not literally, of course, but it is symbolic! Ms. Figueroa from California probably thought she was doing what women in love do. Her ration and logic took a vacation and left her with desperate and unreasonable.

Photo credit: VCFD_PIO twitter

Let’s face it, love and infatuation can make you do stupid things. You ever ride around your man or woman’s house looking for strange cars? Congrats, you did something stupid for love. Have you looked up pictures of [More]

Reality check: Women burp!

  • 7:47 am Friday, October 17th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I know what Beyonce sings, but not everyone wakes up flawless. Mere mortals are subject to having displays of human behavior all the time. The reason women love empowerment songs like this is because affirmation is good to hear! The images we see of photoshopped models and retouched photos everyday can make it tough to remember to love ourselves as we are.

Even in dating, women try to keep up some unrealistic facade that they don’t burp, fart, or go to the bathroom. I know many women who go to extreme lengths to conceal their normal body functions. [More]

Interested in someone? Don’t be subtle!

  • 7:40 am Thursday, October 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva

When you are truly interested in someone and you are ready to make a move, you can’t always be subtle. Some people don’t get subtlety at all! There are signs that can hard to read. Body language, eye contact, and even flirting can get missed. How do you let someone know you are interested and not just being polite?

I know that I don’t automatically assume that men who are friendly are interested. Up until the moment a guy asks for my phone number, I consider it flirting at best. When I want a guy to [More]

Is snooping necessary?

  • 6:41 am Wednesday, October 15th, 2014 by Wise Diva

I promised myself that if I ever felt the need to snoop on my man, I would just end the relationship. How could I ever justify staying with someone I did not trust? I have people call me naive and tell me you have to check up on your mate sometimes. Do you agree?

There are some people who regularly check the text messages, emails, phone pictures of their significant other. They believe that it would tell them something is going on or prove that nothing is. I think it can be misleading, though. People [More]

Do you have to be a perfect match?

  • 5:00 am Tuesday, October 14th, 2014 by Wise Diva

A young lady wrote in wanting to know if she should be worried that she does not have much in common with her new guy. Sara is 5 years younger, was raised in the south, and is a party girl. Her man is older, from the Midwest, and is a devout Christian.

My first question to her was, “Uh where did you two kids even meet!?” She said a Braves game. A friend of hers had great seats through work and he was sitting behind her [Sidebar: get thee to a sporting event ladies, especially when [More]

Is chemistry required?

  • 7:51 am Friday, October 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva

Good dates have pleasantries. Great dates have chemistry. You generally want a great date who you are drawn to – not just physically. The problem is that finding people you connect with and have chemistry with can be rare. So rare that you start to forget how it feels to even have great chemistry with someone.

I know some friends who won’t even take the number of a dude unless he gives them that feeling. You know that you feeling when you spot someone hot and when they speak you get mesmerized? Yes. It [More]