- 7:16 am Wednesday, October 22nd, 2014 by Wise Diva
After you have been intimate with someone, do you think their behavior changes? I asked because one of my friends said that he thinks women often pull a bait and switch in dating. The switch comes after they hook up with someone.
I know, breaking news: Sex changes things, right? Is it because we expect different things after we get physical? The guys that I know think they can tell a lot about a woman by the way she acts after sex. What they truly want becomes apparent: relationship or friends with benefits?
Do you believe [More]
- 8:12 am Tuesday, October 21st, 2014 by Wise Diva
Why does it seem as if people from our past always pop up at the worse times? I used to think one of my exes had me under surveillance and waited until I was starting something new to return. Do you have someone who keeps coming back like a bad boomerang from hell?
The basic reason my guy friends tell me is that men come back for the possibility of hooking up. You don’t even really have to even hint at it. They just hope that you will give them a shot for nostalgia’s sake. I [More]
- 7:34 am Monday, October 20th, 2014 by Wise Diva
When you find yourself stuck in the chimney of your ex-boyfriend’s house, you have to wonder how you got there. Not literally, of course, but it is symbolic! Ms. Figueroa from California probably thought she was doing what women in love do. Her ration and logic took a vacation and left her with desperate and unreasonable.
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Let’s face it, love and infatuation can make you do stupid things. You ever ride around your man or woman’s house looking for strange cars? Congrats, you did something stupid for love. Have you looked up pictures of [More]
- 7:47 am Friday, October 17th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I know what Beyonce sings, but not everyone wakes up flawless. Mere mortals are subject to having displays of human behavior all the time. The reason women love empowerment songs like this is because affirmation is good to hear! The images we see of photoshopped models and retouched photos everyday can make it tough to remember to love ourselves as we are.
Even in dating, women try to keep up some unrealistic facade that they don’t burp, fart, or go to the bathroom. I know many women who go to extreme lengths to conceal their normal body functions. [More]
- 7:40 am Thursday, October 16th, 2014 by Wise Diva
When you are truly interested in someone and you are ready to make a move, you can’t always be subtle. Some people don’t get subtlety at all! There are signs that can hard to read. Body language, eye contact, and even flirting can get missed. How do you let someone know you are interested and not just being polite?
I know that I don’t automatically assume that men who are friendly are interested. Up until the moment a guy asks for my phone number, I consider it flirting at best. When I want a guy to [More]
- 6:41 am Wednesday, October 15th, 2014 by Wise Diva
I promised myself that if I ever felt the need to snoop on my man, I would just end the relationship. How could I ever justify staying with someone I did not trust? I have people call me naive and tell me you have to check up on your mate sometimes. Do you agree?
There are some people who regularly check the text messages, emails, phone pictures of their significant other. They believe that it would tell them something is going on or prove that nothing is. I think it can be misleading, though. People [More]
- 5:00 am Tuesday, October 14th, 2014 by Wise Diva
A young lady wrote in wanting to know if she should be worried that she does not have much in common with her new guy. Sara is 5 years younger, was raised in the south, and is a party girl. Her man is older, from the Midwest, and is a devout Christian.
My first question to her was, “Uh where did you two kids even meet!?” She said a Braves game. A friend of hers had great seats through work and he was sitting behind her [Sidebar: get thee to a sporting event ladies, especially when [More]
- 7:51 am Friday, October 10th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Good dates have pleasantries. Great dates have chemistry. You generally want a great date who you are drawn to – not just physically. The problem is that finding people you connect with and have chemistry with can be rare. So rare that you start to forget how it feels to even have great chemistry with someone.
I know some friends who won’t even take the number of a dude unless he gives them that feeling. You know that you feeling when you spot someone hot and when they speak you get mesmerized? Yes. It [More]
- 7:48 am Thursday, October 9th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Having an active dating life means you could end up dating multiple people at once. Everyone is not cut out for this and some people excel at it. It can be fun and is probably the way to go if you are not looking for something serious. Why don’t more people try it?
The biggest dilemma with juggling dates is how honest and transparent you have to be. I don’t think it would bother me as long as the person is considerate of my time. Don’t double book dates, focus on the person you are [More]
- 5:00 am Wednesday, October 8th, 2014 by Wise Diva
Being the only unmarried person in the office sucks sometimes. If you aren’t dealing with smug married people, you are avoiding the talk about your love life. Why are people so curious about single life anyway?
I can’t help but feel like some sort of weird museum exhibit being watched and marveled at: “Here is a single black female in her 40s. Despite her spinster age, she manages to get through her workday without collapsing in a ball of tears at her single status.” I am exaggerating of course, but you get what I’m saying, right? [More]